How are your 11m olds eating?

We’ve always had a well balanced combo of BLW and purées/ pouches. We used solid starts a lot and I’m aware 12 months is when you can start to serve food with little modification. I’m quite anxious around BLW still so I’ve been cutting everything into bite size pieces since 8.5 months. She eats a lot of different foods using hands and is started to figure out a spoon and fork, but I feel like I’m holding her back in a way? She’s never really learnt to spit food out if it’s too much to handle as it’s always been small. She’s gagged about 3 times in total when she’s put too much in, and I’ve had to scoop the food out because she just panics and cries if she can’t handle it - I’ve done the whole theatrical spitting out so she can copy.

Is it normal to still be mashing food and cutting into small pieces or should I start offering bigger pieces for her to pull apart now?

Like if I’m eating out I’d take a 10m+ pouch and baby snacks instead of ordering her food but I really want to be able to let her eat the same food as us now she’s approaching 12 months.

What would you order at a restaurant? How would you serve it to them? How do you figure out portions?

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In terms of cutting up I’ve almost done the opposite. So initially have her finger sized foods to bite bits off but now I find cutting up her food is better for her. I know it’s silly but I don’t know why I didn’t realise it would be “ok” 😂 x

I also BLW from 6 months and have never puréed anything so my little one has worked through the “gagging”. Maybe watch videos/educate yourself on what’s safe and what isn’t (I’m sure you already know but just for extra confidence) and just try your very best to let your LO work through the gagging because thags how they get to know. You could cut up bits and give her one at a time? I know it can be hard to watch but try not to scoop it out of she’s actively gagging as that’s ok and a normal part of eating solids. If you’re weary of choking, you could do a first aid course so you’d be confident to do back blows etc.

My little girl hasn’t got a major appetite so I don’t order her a meal yet. I usually take something I know she’d like (cubes of cheese, sausage rolls) and give her bits of those and something off my plate too ☺️ x

this is exactly what I’ve done, once her pincer grasp developed she also started shoving finger sized foods in at once so I started cutting it tiny but I see kids eating sandwiches and pasta etc. and I wondered if I was holding her back by still doing tiny pieces. She eats well I think I’m just having one of those moments where I don’t feel I’m doing it right compared to others🥲

I’ve done the BLW course and a first aid course😅 I do a lot of finger foods as she prefers feeding herself, but I just wondered if I should still be cutting everything into tiny pieces at this age? For example the sausage roll, do you cut it up into pieces or let her take her own bites?

Majority of the time I let my bubs now take her own bites but I find she does just spit the food back out. A key example toast, so I end up breaking up small pieces and giving it to her so I know she's eaten.
Shes fine with softer elements like pasta and pinwheel if I've put a blended veg mix in to make them softer. She is also now okay with cucumber but again it's rather soft... But she loves a breadstick 😂
I don't like the kids meals offered out tbh so if I order she has some of what I have but I have little bits with me too just incase.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong at all. If she's eating well you are definitely not hold her back.

If she eats well you’ve got it 🤍 it’s so hard not to compare and criticise yourself! Personally I’m going to keep cutting stuff up because I find my little girl eats best like that! So yes I’ll cut her sausage roll up and if I give her some food from my plate I’ll cut it up. Pasta, I pick a shape she can grab and sandwiches I’ve been cutting up or if I’m having one I’ll hold it in a way that encourages her to bite a small bit off xx

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