Worried for OH now any advice
So maybe last year it started. We were on the bus, and some guy seemed to have mental health issues. He was upset that the front bus seat was taken. Instead of ignoring him, my OH shouting back saying is your name on it, and then off the bus said I will punch you. I told him calm down, but just may he think he a nig man. I was shocked never seen my OH like this before threatening to hit people etc.
Then he went out to his boot camp session in the park. This guy wouldn't leave where they were doing working out. He goes over again, almost nearly fighting this guy. The people he works out with pulled him away and said "Does he want to go to prison.. Again, I do think he was threatening to hit him. When he told me I even more shocked because he showed himself up in front of them people he does boot camp with.
Then today tops it all he went to go his day job and he was told it ended. But he come in saying it's his supervisor they don't get a long. He threatened the supervisor before leaving again, saying he punch him. I only realised how serious it was when the agency called him, saying he threatened to kill the gut. My OH denied that, but he didn't tell them he did threaten to punch him.
I am worried he is going to actually go far with this threatening behaviour hit someone go prison. He can't afford too.
I told him today he needs to stop this, etc.
I said to some close friends before but don't want to say to his family.
I just thought it's happening too often
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Do think that perhaps your OH has his own mental health issues he needs help with, or needs help with his anger because it’s not okay to threaten people at all. If he’s getting angry and saying it then there is a high chance he would actually do it. Some people say it because they want to feel powerful and they want others to follow their lead but don’t act on it, but if it’s increasing then it’s definitely a worse case scenario. I’d be worried about him taking his anger out at home. If it was me I would be telling his family because I’d want to know if they know what’s going on, or if they can help in any way. If he doesn’t have a good relationship with his family then it might make him worse in which case don’t. But if he doesn’t have problems with them then inform them. Especially because if anything did happen to you or anyone else. I’m sorry you’re having to go through that but you don’t have to go through it alone. Also you aren’t responsible for someone else, yes you can help
Them but not as much as they have to help themselves and he needs to want help to get it, otherwise he won’t get the help he needs. Make sure you’re safe and you have a plan if something were to happen
@Dionne I think he is saying that to feel powerful. Ever since he got his visa. Because we had a lot of issues was about to be done with him. But he seemed to have felt like a man again since being able to work. He just seemed more happy he providing.
But today the job let him go because of this threatening behaviour and agency wasn't happy.
I said to our close friend and his sis in law, but I'm not sure how his brothers will feel.
Thanks for advice
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