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November 2025 Babies 🇺🇸

Hating pregnancy

I’m new here and I’m struggling so bad. I am 8 weeks pregnant with my first and I am 42. We got pregnant naturally after trying/not preventing for like a year and a half. I had given up on it happening cause I thought I was just too old. Well… I wasn’t.
I hate every minute of this pregnancy. I have been so constipated, sick, exhausted, bloated. I want a glass of wine SO badly. I am a teacher and I always had wine after dinner while I watched TV. It was literally the only thing I like that took the edge off.
To make this worse… I have two step daughters. We have 80% custody of them and their mom is an absolute waste of space. She provides nothing but a babysitting service every other weekend where they go act like animals in a zoo and come back feral. It’s like everything I try to teach them gets undone when they’re with her. The oldest is almost 11 and is a pathological liar. She told her bio mom that I hit her and scream at her. I’ve never done either. The youngest was totally neglected by her mother until I came along and she’s become a nightmare too.
I work full time and my husband was trying to study for his insurance exam so he could sell insurance and work from home. But he failed the exam twice and now has to go back to being a service advisor at a car dealership, where he’s gone 12 hours a day and every Saturday.
I’m just so pissed off. I can’t take care of these brats, work full time. And take care of a newborn come November. When I tell my husband all this, he says it’s no big deal and we have seven months to figure it out. Uh WTF??? We aren’t just gonna figure it out the day the baby comes. I also get no PTO for my maternity leave so we have to eat that cost. And we will need $1000 a month for daycare when the baby turns 6 weeks.
I told my husband that when this baby is born, it’s gonna come before the step kids because 1. It’s a newborn and 2. They already have a mother in the picture who, shitty or not, is still their mom. He is mad because he says now I will only care about our baby. I’m sorry he had two kids with that POS, but she still has 20% custody and they are clearly mini versions of her. They are hers, not mine. I take them to and from school, feed them all the meals, take them to and from dance. All my husband does is work which I appreciate but I’m tired of being a freaking nanny when I’m exhausted pregnant. Thanks for letting me vent.