Settling in at nursery

Hey my LO started nursery for the first time yesterday. Before this she’s been looked after by me (I work part time) or family whilst I am at work.
She needed picking up early yesterday because she was so upset and they have just called to ask me to get her today too- is there any tips to help her settle?
She going in completely fine- runs in, says bye and starts playing it’s just after she’s been there for a couple of hours she becomes upset and apparently inconsolable 😩

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Could you make a family book? Just a simple flip book of pictures of everyone important to her so she can have it to look at and she might enjoy going through it with staff to help bonding. Any comforter that she’s attached to that you can take in? Or could you go pick out like a nursery specific cuddly toy that she can take? It’s hard but it’s really a case of letting it ride out while she settles. I’m surprised the nursery have already called twice, have they discussed with you what they’ve tried to help calm her down? Might be good to hear so you can do similar things at home. Is it around a specific time like nap time or meal time that might be triggering her or just when she’s maybe getting tired? My daughter was a lot better when she knew which staff would be in her room and got to know them better, at the start people coming in and out she didn’t know was really hard for her. Sorry it’s been stressful start! x

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They just say she becomes inconsolable and they had to try Peppa pig for 10 minutes just to calm her down.
The comforter or a toy is a really good idea I will try that.
I know it’s only been 2 days but I am freaking out about it a little bit 😩

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My boy started with a childminder at 9 months old and really didn't settle at all with her, he cried loads so I cried loads and it was horrible. A month in I moved him to a nursery and he settled there pretty much straight away, I have no idea why he didn't like the childminders but something wasn't right for him. At nursery he went through a phase of crying at drop-off when he moved up rooms but settled fine as soon as I left ( I literally looked through the window and could see him setting the table out for breakfast).
I think for him he likes the routine and knows what happens and when and he's also got his little mates who he knows and talks about loads and he loves going in to play with them. Hopefully your little girl will feel happy to make some friends soon and they will keep her distracted and busy when she is there. I would expect the nursery to try and persevere with getting her to settle though, it's tough but she needs to get used to it and if she starts to realise that if by getting really upset

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You pick her up early then she might play on this (my son definitely would as he's getting very cheeky!)
I hope she settles soon x

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This is what I am thinking! Both times we picked her up she had settled and was playing and I am thinking she’s now going to think we always pick her up after lunch or if she gets a little sad 🤷‍♀️

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