Could use some help

We're on day 2 of potty training and my sons all excited about going to the potty but wen I put him on it nothing happens. I don't like it say to bring him every 20-30 minutes and im starting to feel discouraged and could use some support and suggestions as a first time mom of potty training

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Man my son will pee on the potty but no poop. I’m like dude lol he’ll hide and poop then come tell me mama poopoo lol so I feel it. Potty training can be difficult sometimes just keep going even give him treats when he goes on the potty show him it’s a good thing

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I'll gv that a try

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They say 2.5 is the sweet spot for potty training, so if he doesn’t seem to be getting it you may want to wait a little longer. Unless you have to do it now for other reasons, but that’s just what I’ve been told by multiple people who have gone through it and some medical professionals as well.

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Yeah I agree, I usually wait until after they turn 2. With my other two kids I started introducing the little potty and stuff so they were familiar but they (in my experience) are usually more ready when they are a little older! So if he's not getting it right now don't worry, he might just not be ready! Also, with my other s I just planned to have 3 to 4 days where we weren't going anywhere and just let them run around nakey, put a towel down in front of the TV or something and give them lots and lots of stuff to drink.. It's definitely harder now though with other kids because they want to go out and play. So honestly I'm not sure what I'm going to do for this last one 😫🤦 good luck to us all 😂

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that's wat im thinking gving it a couple more days and if nothing happens wait until his birthday next month and retry

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Make sure he’s drinking plenty! My daughter has been potty trained for over a month now and the first 2-3 days, I was mixing juice in her water to make sure she was drinking more than usual. This let her learn her urges pretty quickly and gave her more opportunities to try 😊 I also didn’t take her to the potty every 20-30 minutes. Her normal is 2ish hours between a pee so that’s the time frame I would be encouraging her to sit on the potty in our early training days. Now she sometimes even holds it 4/5 hours if she’s playing/distracted and doesn’t want to take a break. She also makes it 12 hrs overnight with no accidents. I truly think the 20-30 minute rule is ridiculous and sets you and baby up for frustration!

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Could also try to have him blow bubbles into milk/water thru a straw. Blowing promotes relaxation or the pelvic floor muscles and helps babies learn what muscles to relax to pee/poop

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he drinks alot and my grandma suggested starting w putting him on wen he wakes up, before and after nap time, after meals and before bedtime

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I think those are great suggestions! Catching those first pees after wake ups are so helpful. Are you keeping him in a diaper during the day? Or trying the nakey method?

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were doing pull ups

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I’d be curious if he’s peeing in those. If so, that’s probably why he doesn’t need to go on the potty. They are so similar to diapers, I feel like it doesn’t help them learn as quickly. Training underwear or nakey method may be a better option. When he feels the pee, he’s going to begin to learn his cues and obviously not want it to run down his legs. Just a thought though. I know those methods allow for more accidents and cleanups so they aren’t for everyone 😊

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I want to buy some training pants but dont hv the money for them rn

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We just finished potty training! We did the naked method for the first two and a half days and then underwear/pants (which was ROUGH at first). But then he finally started telling us by day 3 other than that we watched for signs.

When on the potty we blew bubbles, cup bubbles, played the harmonica and read books but kept him on there for no more than 4-5 minutes at a time.

Hang in there! Takes lots of patience and lots of cleaning product 😂

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If you don’t have one, I would suggest getting a little potty and bringing the potty to him (quickly!) when he starts going or when he says he needs to go. Sometimes the act of picking them up and taking them to a big potty can kinda scare the pee back in or he’s going in his pull up on the way to the potty. When I initiated potty training we did a naked weekend and that first day I used a solo cup or little potty to catch his pee and by day 2 he would walk himself over to the little potty to put his pee in the potty.

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