@Nef thank you that’s what I always thought but family and friends…well their opinions are always sharp
If the bd wanted to be involved he'd have stepped up. It doesn't mean he has to be with you but not being with you didn't mean he wasn't a dad yk? He walked out on his kid. Another man is stepping in... I guess I'd want to talk to your bf about what he expects out of it.
Their opinions dont matter unless they are going to force the dad to be present they shouldn’t shame you for prioritizing the person who is. If you listen to them are they going to help you raise your baby alone ? I don’t think so , atleast not to the extent a partner would.
@C I’ve spoken with my partner he even tried to reach out to biological dad himself and give him updates and chances to be involved, all either of us got was abuse…partner has said he doesn’t want to take his place but he won’t let baby girl grow up without a dad who loves her
You've done what you could. There's a man who is telling you he wants you and would happily step in to raise her as his own. Decide who you want to put in the bc.❤️ it's not up to anyone else.
Your family can have their opinions but as others have said above you and partner should make decisions together and also what you want is far more important. Rather than shaming/being opinionated the family should be supporting your decisions and new happy relationship. If possible limit how much of your business they have access to. The more they know the more they can meddle and in the long run you and baby will suffer by their actions. If u feel new partner is the right fit, enjoy your own family. Best of luck and I hope you get the peace you deserve moving forward.
@Tackaynia thank you this advice has actually helped me think in the long run and your 100% right
You're absolutely not in the wrong! Your new partner is already doing more for you unborn baby than her biological father, as far as I'd go I'd say he is more her dad that the sperm doner! X
The man who does for the baby and is there for you and her takes priority over the sperm donor who’s made it clear he doesn’t want anything to do with you or the baby. You’re not wrong. The only one wrong here is the person who abandoned their responsibilities.