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Am I wrong here?

So long story short. The biological father of my daughter left me high and dry…told me to raised my child alone and tried to accuse me of her being someone else’s. I begged and pleaded for him to come to appointments, help prep for baby’s arrival or even name her…to all he refused. When I was 8 weeks pregnant, I reached out for support from a friend of many years…long story short. We got close fast…now here 27 weeks pregnant and 19 weeks into a relationship. Said partner has come to every appointment, paid for everything for baby, helped name her and provides so home is perfect and safe for me and baby girl. Is it bad if I let him take higher authority when it come to baby over her biological father who doesn’t show interest….i feel guilty as I’ve been told I’m in the wrong

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The man who does for the baby and is there for you and her takes priority over the sperm donor who’s made it clear he doesn’t want anything to do with you or the baby. You’re not wrong. The only one wrong here is the person who abandoned their responsibilities.

@Nef thank you that’s what I always thought but family and friends…well their opinions are always sharp

If the bd wanted to be involved he'd have stepped up. It doesn't mean he has to be with you but not being with you didn't mean he wasn't a dad yk? He walked out on his kid. Another man is stepping in... I guess I'd want to talk to your bf about what he expects out of it.

Their opinions dont matter unless they are going to force the dad to be present they shouldn’t shame you for prioritizing the person who is. If you listen to them are they going to help you raise your baby alone ? I don’t think so , atleast not to the extent a partner would.

@C I’ve spoken with my partner he even tried to reach out to biological dad himself and give him updates and chances to be involved, all either of us got was abuse…partner has said he doesn’t want to take his place but he won’t let baby girl grow up without a dad who loves her

You've done what you could. There's a man who is telling you he wants you and would happily step in to raise her as his own. Decide who you want to put in the bc.❤️ it's not up to anyone else.

Your family can have their opinions but as others have said above you and partner should make decisions together and also what you want is far more important. Rather than shaming/being opinionated the family should be supporting your decisions and new happy relationship. If possible limit how much of your business they have access to. The more they know the more they can meddle and in the long run you and baby will suffer by their actions. If u feel new partner is the right fit, enjoy your own family. Best of luck and I hope you get the peace you deserve moving forward.

@Tackaynia thank you this advice has actually helped me think in the long run and your 100% right

You're absolutely not in the wrong! Your new partner is already doing more for you unborn baby than her biological father, as far as I'd go I'd say he is more her dad that the sperm doner! X