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It’s a choice but I definitely think 20 years is a lot of age gap. If I saw a couple like that I’ll look at them I’m afraid . Not with any bad intentions but I always think what a big age gap. Unless the man doesn’t look his age at all but if he does I’ll look . As I said it’s a choice
Ignore them all. Let people judge, it’s more their problem than yours. Be happy you found someone and enjoy your good fortune
@Donna Woods exactly
Fellow age gap relationship here with 26 year difference and I still look at people and try and work out their relationship… I think everyone is nosey and wonders what the relationship there what matters is how you let it affect you and how the people treat you based on that age gap relationship. I’d be lying if I didn’t regularly play a game called ‘Dad or Daddy’ Me and my partner don’t even notice it anymore and everyone who matters in our life is fully aware and completely fine with the age gap x
It is no one's business. My partner is 11 years younger than me. If the age gap was the other way round (older man) people wouldn't blink an eye. People will judge, we just have to ignore them unfortunately 😔 as long as you are both happy ❤️
My partner is 37 years old and I'm a 28 years old with two boys i got something too
I would try and not let it bother you. It’s nobody else’s business but yours, and if you love each other then nothing else should matter. Like someone else said, it says more about them if they’re giving funny looks than it does you.
My partner is in his 50s too, but he doesn't look like it. People do look but I just ignore it now, I'm so use to it. I think it was worse when I was pregnant plus he's a different colour to me also so throw that into the mix too 😅
Same here I'm 30 and my partner is 50. Neither of us have been married and he has 17 year old daughter who lives with us part time, i have a great relationship with her she was 11 when we met and it was her coming into my life that made me sure I wanted children of my own. Now she is completely besotted with her baby brother, my partner is an awesome dad and we hope to have another in the next couple of years. It may not be conventional but it works for us and if it works for you just let the haters hate xx
My other half is in his 50s (I'm 31)and we're expecting our first baby in the summer! We've definitely had some looks and some comments but now most of it goes over our heads. People will always look and judge something they don't understand, but those that know us totally get it and love us both and are supportive and that's all that matters - love comes in many forms and having an large age gap is one of them! Don't know about others in the same boat, but this is the happiest I've ever been, we meet each others needs in every way, are on the same level and it just works (we certainly wouldn't be having a baby otherwise), whereas I know others in "conventional" relationships in terms of age that don't have any of those things! Do what makes you happy 😊 X
If your happy who cares, people will judge no matter what you do
I think people judge because you may look like father and daughter. My SIL married a man 20 years her senior and 20 years later, they are still mistaken for father and daughter despite having 2 children together. My cousin married a woman 30 years his junior. Admittedly they really do look like father and daughter (she is the same age as his eldest daughter) and he gets mistaken for her father and their child’s grandfather all the time. I think people make an instant judgement based on looks tbh.