in Mom's going through divorce/separation/ breakups

Co-parenting/Platonic Cohabiting

Am I crazy even thinking this could work? Has anybody/is anybody doing this and how has/is it going? Just split 6 months ago from a 16 year relationship (not married) due to basically having fallen out of love and not ever being shown any affection. We have a child (5 year old). Im currently living with my mother half the week but this needs to change! Alot has been said and done including emotional abuse which I cannot forgive but the thought of my son growing up without his dad around/having two homes to grow up in is just killing me. I need to make the decision soon. House is in both our names he won't sell and bank won't let my name come off due to his incoming & outgoings not being enough. Really struggling with what I should do. I know my mental health would suffer if I chose this but I also know my sons would if I don't. I would have to take him away from his home and school freinds 🥺 I just don't know. How do we ever know what we're doing is for the best 😫

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It’s so tough. If you can I would recommend therapy or. Healing group. Some things I wish I would have done right away because it will affect you going forward and that will also affect how you show up. If you’re not already married that can possibly be a good thing if you decide to go through with it some people do not separate due to marriage and how their religion really doesn’t like it. Some people get married just for the kid.. marriage is the best for the kid. However your child is so young.. there is no right or wrong answer but talking with a professional may be your best bet. Possibly don’t go talking to friends or family as that might make things worse it’s a decision you have to make.yes you can learn to love the person and work on yourself but it’s a really complicated decision. No Matter what you do seek a support group that you can confide in and hold your hand during this time.

@Jessica aww thanks for taking the time to reply Jessica. I think I'm going to stay in the family home for my sons sake I think it's best for him at his young age. I will be looking into counselling and support groups for myself. Unfortunately I did tell all my family alot of details they are not happy as they know it could effect my mental health. Who knows if relationships can ever be repaired but my son is happier when he is around both parents. Hopefully I'm making the right decision 🙏🏼 xx

Don't let others opinions influence you. Emotional abuse doesn't leave a mark. If moving on leads a healthier, happier you, that's all that counts. A healthier, happier you also leads to a stronger mom for your kiddo. I hate Journaling, but it does help.

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