Nigerian boyfriend and his colleague
My boyfriend was sat in work on video call to me and our daughters. He was calling my daughters name and a colleague said I hope you didn't just give her an oyinbo name but knew I could hear her. Bare in mind my partners first name is English. He didn't want our children to have yoruba first names but they have Yoruba middle names, surname and they and an oriki name too.
But my partner didn't tell the woman not to say something like that or anything but he pulled a face to her that showed like she shouldn't say it infront of me and laughed. So it makes me think that they speak like this about me all the time. They even ask him all the time.. who cooked his food when he takes Nigerian food in. I got upset that he didn't say anything to his colleague, but do you think I'm over reacting or is this a normal thing to ask people. As I know lots of Yoruba people who have named their children English names and people don't ask their parents if they have given them Yoruba names too.
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I find it disrespectful, that you are a coworker and feel that comfortable to talk on my children, that's an issue in itself the added insult was you didn't verbally defend something you thought may offend me. My ex was Yoruba and I'm Carribbean but quint essentially English 2nd generation born and bred! I just felt like they had a village mentality in the sense everyone is family, there's no filter just speak on it. For example referencing non family members with family titles......baffles me! You are not and I don't know you.
@Anita so true! I am Welsh so it's like even co workers think they can disrespect me.
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She did over step and there should be boundaries when your husband is on a personal call. But I wouldn’t be worried unless his disrespecting you at work or bringing you down ( in which I think he is not) him and his co worker have a relationship( work) and obviously share some personal things. Which is normal because it happens at my work. So co workers are really nosey and some just mind their business. If it’s bothering, communicate with your husband about it.