in January 2025 Babies 🇬🇧

So unhappy

I am just not myself anymore. My partner of 8 years is the most selfish man. He goes away next week for a full 7 days. Monday to Monday. Leaving me with 2 year old and 3 month old. Told me this morning he won't be around tomorrow because the boxing is on so the kids won't actually see him until Sunday. But he just expects me to do EVERYTHING. It's like he still has his life and I'm stuck at home with 2 kids. I have no family around and no friends either. I have zero village. It's like he makes plans and doesn't think about the kids. He's just come in from work and I'm literally sat on the floor sorting washing out. I get a 'what you doing'? Well what does it look like I'm doing. I didn't fold any of his stuff cause I was mad so he asked why. I said when was the last time you did anything for me? He leaves me with all washing, cleaning, food shopping and just expects his uniform to be ready for work or his jeans be washed ready for his day off. He actually does NOTHING for me. All the washing piles up on the table as he puts another wash on cause he needs something of his washing. Not cause he wants to help. I am just absolutely miserable. Crying constantly. Jealous of everyone who have decent men. 😭😭😭

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I'm so sorry to hear that. It's so unfair! :'( big hugs to you xx

Decent men are rare! I’m sorry you’re in the shit partner club too, if you can go to mum groups make new friends and do you! Stop doing his washing and his stuff and just do you and the kids, he’s an adult, he should be doing that for himself.

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry. Does he ever look after the kids on his own? None of the housework or parenting should be seen as "helping" or doing something for you, because that assumed that it's automatically your job, and it really shouldn't be! He is a parent and an adult too, so he should be doing these things 😪 Have you ever tried to talk to him about it? Has he noticed that you're feeling so low? Sending hugs xxx

@Beth only our son (2 year old) I have the baby 24hrs a day. Yep I've spoken to him. He says I'm depressed and 'mad' as in crazy. X

Bless you, you're not mad/crazy. And maybe you are depressed, but that doesn't invalidate your experience and the fact that he isn't contributing at all. Have you spoke to your health visitor? It sounds like you really need some support to get out to groups and meet other moms to feel like you've got some kind of community ❤️ Where do you live? Feel free to drop me a message anytime xxx

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