Is it okay for family to be angry because LOs father has health anxiety and doesn’t want anyone with cold sores kissing his baby?

As politely as I can manage rn f**k no they have no right to be angry! Thats not health anxiety that’s just being a decent parent! Cold sores at this age can be devastating to babies - do some research and send it to them. I get cold sores and give affection to my babies I haven’t had one in about 2.5yrs now but when I had the last one I wore a mask when feeding my baby 4m old in addition to covering it with cold sore patches, washed and sanitised my hands before even touching him and didn’t kiss him for a few good weeks after it had disappeared. They need to pull their heads in

No they should not be angry. First off even if they don’t get cold sores and you asked them not to kiss your baby - it’s your baby, your rules. The fact that they DO get cold sores and are still angry is IMO selfish and outrageous. It can be extremely dangerous for babies and will have life long consequences if they catch it. If your FIL flies off the handle like that I’d be concerned tbh. Sorry you’re going through that it doesn’t sound like a pleasant situation. Stick to your guns though. People seem to think they are entitled to all sorts with a baby but you as parents set the boundaries and ultimately asking someone prone to cold sores not to kiss your baby is protecting your baby

The fact they’re aware they have cold sores and are still angry is wild and taking offensive is wild! Most parents including myself wouldn’t want someone with a cold sore to EVER kiss my child. I also wouldn’t want to be round anyone who’s ill

That’s not health anxiety, that’s common sense.

Sorry - nobody with a cold sore would even be holding my baby!

I mentioned my husbands health anxiety because it’s really bad and he will fixate on something for days or weeks afterwards and struggle to cope with day to day things. It really affected him more than me. I was upset and annoyed and angry with their reactions.

He also has OCD alongside health anxiety.

I wouldn’t want people kissing my baby with a cold sore f*ck to the no they have no right to be angry. The fact they’ve got so angry and not respected your wishes as parents is worrying tbf.

I can’t believe 8% of people think anyone else has the right to be angry. As the parents it you’re right and responsibility to keep the baby safe from harm, and it’s you also have a right to look after your MH . I had the same anxieties around cold sores- me and my partner now try and make sure we communicate our boundaries more explicitly. I found the lullaby trust advice really helpful. I think more awareness raising is important as I think some people aren’t aware of the risks to health/ death. https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/over-half-of-uk-parents-unaware-of-risk-kissing-poses-to-newborns/

Cold sores is litterally herpes, why are they okay with potentially giving that to a baby!? I don't get them but know people who do and it's incredibly frustrating for them so i don't see why anyone would want someone to go through the same thing. I'd tell them to sod off in all honesty. No but me and my partner kiss our child and luckily everyone has respected our boundaries

Cold sores can be so dangerous to babies, it’s really not worth the risk. I would prefer to make someone angry than my baby be ill! You and your husband are absolutely in the right, stand your ground!