Fed up

What’s going on mama? Because you are too amazing and strong to put up with bs like this. Keep fighting and staying strong you know what’s right for you and your LO. You know what you deserve ❤️

@Sharnee hes blaming me for his job loss which i didnt even have a clue hed lost his job till last week. His gf just causes so many problems right now im literally on the edge. Xxx

You're NOT the problem sounds like.bd and his new fling is the real problem

@Kara yep and hes taking me to mediation. When its not even me stopping him from seeing our daughter. Xx

@Jade Barnett I know I'd get a lawyer if you possibly can! I know how these situations always end it always bc of the bf new gf and I'm sorry.

@Kara i will doo. Thank you for the advise i will get on getting a lawyer. I dont think it can get any worse. Xxx

Definitely get a lawyer this is exactly the type of crap I dealt with when I was a kid. It’s going to put a strain on your child because in that environment. Eventually it’s going to be a battle against you child I hate to say. Don’t let you child be in the middle💕 I wish you the best of luck your child is extremely lucky to have a wonderful mother 🥰

@Layla Caron ive had the fear of that being the case. I will defoo get some legal advise. Xxx

@Jade Barnett you're welcome 🤗 my inbox is open if you need to talk

@Kara thank you lovely.

I agree with the ladies above to get some legal advice! Good mama’s do whatever it is that they have to, they do whatever it takes to take care of their children. That’s what you are doing. Screw him. He’s obviously not thinking about baby. My thoughts are to just let him go. You can’t force a relationship and even if you could, it’s not like it would be a GOOD relationship, so I’d just let it be. Unfortunately, yes, baby will eventually find out/learn about who bd is and how much, or how little, he put into the relationship.

Sounds tough! Definitely get a lawyer as advised. Document any attempts you’ve made to get him to see her and make a list of what you’d feel comfortable with in terms of visits (I.e supervised visits, no new gfs around or contacting you). The new thing sounds a little unhinged and I’d consider a no contact order for her. My kids dad attempted to take me to mediation. I declined and explained to the company why - they determined mediation wasn’t acceptable for our situation - so now he has the option of taking it to court further in an attempt to see his kids or accept he won’t ever see them if I have anything to do with it 🤷🏻‍♀️ stay strong mama!

@Alissa he was a great dad when we had her. But since this womans been in his ears hes complelty changed to a person i dont regonise at all. Hes gone on holiday with her and her child and left his own vhildren behind. I just feel like they are trying ti get me to back down and im not doing it. My daughter needs to see mummys not affraid to have her back at all times. Xxxx

He may have been a great dad then, but it’s clear that he’s chosen who he wants to be now, at this point in time. It’s heartbreaking that he doesn’t want to have a relationship with his kids, but I don’t know that forcing him to have one with them is going to be much better. Children know when they’re not wanted and that’s a lot of negativity to bring into their life when dad’s absence might actually be more healthy for them. Obviously you know your daughter and him best, and I’m just some stranger on the internet, but I think that it’s something worth thinking about and maybe considering. Whatever you decide, it’s obvious that you’re trying to do it in the best interests of your child and that alone makes you a stand up mama! Hang in there mama! You got this!!!

@Sharnee yeah ive got all my emails ive sent asking him when hes coming to her and that but ive had no replys other than being called by the mediation place. I didnt even want to go through with it but i thought about it i spoke yo them and they said it was up to me and that and said i should get police advise about his gf. So yeah ive got a couple of weeks to think about what im going ask but i do feel like im not going to be heard and hes just going make it about himself and his gf. When shes been the problem since december. Ive done nothing wrong to him at all i havent said he cant have out daughter i just asked if he cud have our daughter kn his own wothout his gf there as she isnt a safe person for my daughter to be around. Xxx

@Alissa thank you. Hes been made to block me so i gave up trying to get him to see his daughter. Hes not allowed anywhere near me or speak to me for that matter as his gf doesnt like the fact we were on good terms before all this mess that they have created. He knows where we live and is capable of coming up to see his daughter when he likes. Ive never stopped him from seeing her at all. Because i wont let hlm take our daughter to be around someone i do not trust to be around or would want anyone to be around as i have mentioned she is a literal walking red flag. Hes taking me to mediation for some unknown reason i havent got a clue as to why hes dragging us through this. Its not as if its going to get anywhere anyway. Its a very big mess which probably would clear up if the walking red flag wasnt in the picture. Xx

@Jade Barnett you're welcome love 💓