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Leave!! Run and don’t look back! This is just the beginning, he will continue to cheat trust me. It hurts now I know but in the long run you will be better off / happier without him! You will be able to focus on your self and your child and when the time comes you will find a man who will love you and your kid. Much love to you 🫶
Your kids Will obviously be effected by a divorce but leaving is you showing how they should be treated. They shouldn't put up with disrespect and betrayal.
Serious question - him acting normal sucks but how would you want him to act? Constantly groveling would be irritating to. Honestly you should go somewhere for at least a night just to give yourself time to process and then look into therapy because trying to figure it out on your own is really just too hard. Also, don't feel like you're "supposed to" leave him. And don't feel like you have to make a decision right now. If you want to try to make it work and then decide months or years from now that you can't move past it, that is okay too. No one can tell you the right or wrong way for you to handle your marriage
He chose to cheat and probably knows you won’t leave him. He will do it again but not tell you. He thinks by telling and being honest with you that you should forgive him. That trust is broken, he did that he betrayed you and hurt you. Think it’s best to separate. If he loved you he wouldn’t get physical with someone else
My oldest son’s dad cheated on me after I moved away from all my family to be with him, you can bet that I moved straight back home with my son when I found out. Unfortunately, losing your family is the consequences of bad actions. If he cared about his family and loved you then he wouldn’t have done it.
It will take a long time and a lot of work to move past since which if you were to stay with him, he would need to understand. Him acting ‘normal’ isn’t giving any reassurance but dont feel like you need to know what you want, how you want him to act rn It’s a lot to process and its heartbreaking for you! Your emotions will be up and down thats to be expected
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Your feelings are completely valid. Some couples do stay together after betrayal, about 50 to 60% but it takes real effort from both sides. Healing is not something you should face alone. Kids do not just need parents to stay together, they need healthy, emotionally safe ones. No resentment or sadness. It is okay to take your time, to set boundaries, and to not have all the answers right now. Your husband being on autopilot does not erase the pain he caused. You deserve to be heard and supported. Counseling could help you process everything. It doesn’t mean you’re ready to try and move forward together but allows you the space you need to process. You are doing your best in an awful situation, and that already shows your strength. My dad cheated on both his wives and after trying to repair the relationship cheated again. You don’t know what will have in the future, it could work out but have a plan if it doesn’t.
I'm really sorry your going threw this but I say once a cheater always a cheater, my mum always says to me a leopard never changes its spots
It’s up to you what you want to do, if you want to forgive him then that’s totally your decision but I wouldn’t stay with someone just because you have a child and don’t want to be a single mum
You can move out temporarily to. Single dad life
So many questions. Who/when was he able to be alone with another woman to even receive a bj? Do you know her? How was he even able to get alone to go that far with someone else? Was it only a bj?
Leave him, move back home where you have a support network! So what if you are taking the child away! He done that to himself when he broke up the family with his actions. If he wants to see his child he will have to travel.
Dam manipulation at its finest. Men can't never take accountability.
Do what works for you and he can fit in. He is the one that has ruined your family not you. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Men are pathetic. A BJ from a skank and his life has shattered. Hope it was worth it. Probably not 😂😂 what a fool
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The problem is, if you put stuff like this on here all you'll be told is that you should leave him, which is SUPER unhelpful! As quite frankly, it's not that simple. For me, it would depend on how remorseful he is, which it sounds like he is to me. He also told you about it, rather than trying to keep it a dirty little secret for years. If he is generally a good husband and father, then I would honestly give him the benefit of the doubt I think. This isn't the same as an affair, so I wouldn't automatically break up my family over this xx
I would never be able to get that image out of my head. I would end things. For my sanity. I wouldn’t be as good of a mother staying around someone who could do that to me. Part of what makes me a good mother is how much love there is with my husband. I don’t think I’d be doing my babies any favor by sticking it out.
I just found out my fiance was cheating on me with 10 women for 1½ years I kicked him out. I couldn't do it. I have no real advice as im going through it myself we have 2 under 2 and im completely devastated but just remember that it's gonna take a lot of work from both and it's not gonna be easy. If this isn't something you can get over might as well start working on separating and getting your stuff in order.