Venting

I recently went to a mental health consultants to get assessed and I was diagnosed with depression which I knew I had but they always are pretty certain that I have borderline personality disorder, but they booked me in to get assessed more on it, and I feel like I have it, so I told my partner about it and how I was happy to be finally pointed in the right direction with what’s going on with me but he wasn’t happy about it. He started saying that I need to cancel the appointment because they will just put me in hospital if I have it and no one will be able to look after the kids, which I responded if I had really bad bpd I would be in hospital already and if that did ever happen he would obviously look after the kids since they are his kids to, even tho he does the bare minimum, but that really pissed me off and upset me because he would rather I suffer in silence then get the help I need.

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??? BPD does not mean you would be in hospital nor does it mean you will be hospitalised??? I have EUPD (was BPD but renamed) I’m 39 weeks pregnant. I’ve been assessed, I am not a danger to my baby or anyone around me. This is the fkn issue with this disorder it’s so stereotyped that people don’t even know what they’re talking about. You are an adult with children, your triggers are your own issue and it’s down to you not to project onto your own children. By the sounds on things you’re more than capable of doing that. Tell him to do some actual research on BPD because this diagnosis does not mean you will be taken away from your kids. I’m literally on anti psychotics and in therapy with this disorder and they’re happy for me to be a parent. BPD stems from extreme childhood trauma (usually) it’s not exactly something we can control getting or not. The stereotype honestly boils my piss

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Please do not suffer in silence! I have BPD and bipolar. None of this means I’m going to have my daughter or unborn taken away from me. I have a professional support network around me who do everything possible to ensure that I am supported and able to cope. Your partner has a very selfish and uneducated attitude towards mental health and he should really do some research so he can support you, not isolate you from support. Embrace all the help you can get, and I hope for your sake your partner will encourage this xx

I’m definitely gonna get the help I need, it just boils my blood that he would rather I suffer in silence then step up and help with the kids, he already does the bare minimum with the kids, I’m already 2 weeks away from giving birth and it’s sad that I can’t rely on him if something happens

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