Housing help stuck with ex

Me and my ex fiancé have split we have a 10 week old and I’m stuck living in the house he owns. After a horrific pregnancy where I was really ill (hg throughout) he went to a strip club and paid for lap dances. I went through his phone and found out in the first year he had cheated with so many women and even escorts. I have called off the wedding and now we’re stuck living together. He told me to leave my job, he would support me ( he’s very financially stable.) I’m stuck playing happy families, he has all the power as it’s his house and he said he will continue to financially support me so long as I live here but as soon as I leave I get the bare minimum. I have gone to the council but they need him to sign to say he’s kicking me out (to help me get a place) but he won’t do that as he thinks I’ll use it against him if we ever go down the custody route. He’s mentally destroyed me over the last couple of years, and I desperately need out. Has anyone got any advice please?x

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Can you be sneaky with a part time job to at least get a little savings built up for the transition period?

@Sarah I have some savings but it would only cover a months rent :( I’m getting maternity pay but that won’t be enough to save

I'm so sorry you're in this situation- you and your child deserve so much better. You don’t need your partner’s permission to get help; the council has a duty to help you because fleeing abuse (mental, financial at the least) makes you legally homeless. If you can, try to reach out to trusted family or friends. If you’re in the UK other resources that might be helpful are: Women's Aid (womensaid.org.uk)- they can help you find a refuge and give advice. National Domestic Abuse Helpline- 0808 2000 247 (free, 24/7 support). Shelter (shelter.org.uk)- help with emergency housing and your rights.

Go women's aid

Stay as long as mentally possible and save up and private rent for now then deal with council at him when they making him pay more than he realises he wants what he's doing is such a humongous red flag

Start saving cash in a separate account. Get a job. Pretend he’s not there and or just a roommate. Stop “playing happy family” and play we are raising a child together. No relationship talk, only communication about your baby. Also family and relationship counseling. You have a long way of possibly being in each other’s lives so learning healthy communication is key to success in a peaceful life together. It is very common for the relationship to have some bumps after child/ren are involved.

Start pocketing change left and right. Save his own money and use it. Fuck over that dirty fucker.

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