My IL's are Racist..??
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POc? Pov? What color is everyone? How did u get married if u never MIL? Or u mean u wanted her to reintroduce herself. ?. Maybe I'm just confused. . They were polite to you everyone sweet.. which is it? Maybe it's u? Maybe it's them but they don't have to get to know u personally. I know Disney and movies etc show this welcoming and greeting to be part family...ah not everyone is and depends how u got married and together and was out of race, culture, ethnicity etc. We don't know. Are ur kids the elephant in the room? It's as if u went to Japan and were the only Mexican there. Or Nigeria and the only white rare bird.. it's OK if ur kids stickn out like sore thumb... they will eventually know it on real world same thing ya? Just tell them that, it's OK to be different and or mixed
I’m confused how you’ve never met your mil? What is your oh relationship with her? Has he mentioned she’s racist? Families are strange and it may just be that you come from a much warmer extended family and they probably were just being polite.
What was the nature of the backhanded compliments about y’all’s kids? Why is it hard to believe the two cousins can’t be related? Is one biracial black and the other white? It’s odd that you never formally met the MIL, but is there a reason your husband never made the introduction?
You’ve never met your MIL or his family? Have they met your children? That’s a bit strange to never meet them and then think everything will be happy and roses at a family gathering. I’d definitely be expecting drama if I’d never met my in-laws, had kids with their son and never made effort. Is that the case or am I misunderstanding? Maybe her ignoring you was that she just has zero relationship with you, is upset that your husband has never pushed or made the effort as her son with the grandkids, or disapproves of you rather than being racist. My mil would be hurt if I never spoke to her and she never met me or the kids xxx
Wait so to be clear-- I never met my IL's as in extended family. My husband's Aunts and Uncles. I was referring to an aunt who Is the wife of HIS uncle. I cannot control the disconnect between him and his family that is something that he has to work on although I have pushed him to reconnect, it is ultimately his drive that fosters relationships. I will say his parents didnt help the situation either. But keeping them from their extended family.
OK so u want to connect to extended in laws 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Why? Why do u care about the Aunt's and uncle of the man your married too? U want him to Foster relationships...u can't help it..? Because it' depends on his drive to want too? Why? Unless u guys are 15 and his aunt and uncle are 28..I still don't see reason why u need to connect with them. Are u looking for support from his family . . Respect..acknowledgement, value etc? Is it different races or something..I dunt get it. It's like wanting to know the neighbours wife's sister'in law.. who lives in Denmark... I think ur trying too hard to assimilate unless knowing the aunt uncle etc is like relevant to knowing the Queen and/ King of England.. what's point..
@Sarah the post is vague intentionally... we don't know much and racist is being thrown into it. No idea race. Guess they don't want to say even though its incognito and confusing 🤷♀️ Ps. It's no one's business to push relationships, u can't force ppl or push them to meet their families. Focus on urs.. it's like wanting ur friends to like what u like... they don't have too. Unless ur their mother. Maybe she wants to mother him
Ignorant, possibly. Hard to say without more info but racists may be a leap if that's all there was to it. I'm white so I can't speak with any authority on your experience but I would assume that if its something you've dealt with your whole life, you may begin to assume it in people.