Therapy

I understand all relationships are different and not everyone is the same...but I'm just looking for advice/:

Following. Partner and I are on last straw which is therapy 🥲

@Gabryelle idk your story but I am with you on that. I am always ready to talk to anyone! Message me anytime ❤️

Therapy is a great resource, but I also strongly recommend a joint relationship with Jesus. And even if you maybe aren’t sure about Christianity or don’t have a strong belief or faith… look at the statistics of prayer with couples. When 50-60% of couples get divorced, only 1% of couples who pray together end up divorced and this is also different from otherwise religious couples who don’t pray together and have a 30-40% divorce rate still. Prayer is powerful when done together and it produces bonding, powerful intimacy and vulnerability. My husband and I almost divorced and after some health issues.. it was our doctor who told us to pray together. (No this wasn’t some voodoo, hollistic naturopathic doctor… they were part of a major medical system. Anyway…) That changed everything for my husband and I. And we did also do counseling to work on our communication, but we found the prayer to this day… to be the one major thing that has truly grown our love and bond with one another

@Janis I really like this! I just feel kinda silly when i try to pray especially with someone else so how can I help that? My partner and I are not living together bc he’s got some major anger issues. I want him to get therapy or I’m done. But I really like this idea too on top of that

@Kira There is a book called “How to Pray” by C W Lewis. I highly recommend. You can start simple by simply thanking god for another day in the morning, giving praise for food before meals and thanking god for another day at night before bed.

It did not help my relationship. We have been together for seven years and our main issues are lack of communication and accountability in my fiances side and for me a lot of anger and resent because of those issues. I also have OCD and anxiety which cause me to micromanage and want to control things. However, therapy just became another thing I had to worry about, remind him of, try to force him to do the work the therapist was suggesting and it was really causing me more stress and anxiety so I stopped going. I do individual therapy and I think that has helped me more. If you can’t get him to work on the relationship I think the second best thing is working on yourself!