35 & trying for #3

This is exciting. Of course you can do this. Almost all the mums i know started after me and i was pregnant with my 1st when i was 30. Now ill be 36 in august and we are having our second in end jul/ aug.
Im so excited. My husband will be 42 this year.
If this goes well for us we are talking about even having a 3rd. See what happens.

We have no support etc and village. Its just us. My 5yr old has a bunch of friends so goes on play dates etc but we wont have any support really for this baby just like the first. No one will throw me a shower etc and we just got rid of all the baby stuff before finding out about this miracle baby.
We are so excited and you just make it work. You know you can do it because you're ALREADY doing it.
And youre on the same page, thats the most important thing.
Ive know mums who have had their babies at 40,41 43 plus yrs old.
Just look after your body and prep it for preg and get busssyyyy trying and have fun together. 🥰
Thats what life is about

I had my first at 37! I know it's not quite the same, but I feel we're very well prepared, have a lot of life experience at this age, and are very much killing it! You definitely got this!

I’ve had my first 3 weeks ago. I will be 40 in August . I met my partner 2 years ago and we said if it happened it happened and if it didn’t it would be ok. I was worried about being an older mum but my consultant put me at ease and said women are having them later now days and it’s ok. I wouldn’t change him for the world and I’m so happy even at my age that I got my happy ever after ❤️ xx

You can do this 🥰 xxx

Hey mama,
I just wanted to say—I see you, and I’m cheering you on! I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m 35, and my husband and I are right in the thick of it too. He has a 12-year-old from a previous marriage, and together we have a 3-year-old and a one-month-old. So yes, we’re tired—but our hearts are so full.

I don’t think there’s ever a perfect time to grow your family, but if it’s on your heart and your husband supports you, that’s so powerful. Motherhood looks different for all of us, and there’s no deadline for love, nurturing, and the joy of raising another little one. You can do this. This is exciting news. And yes—we got you.

Sending lots of encouragement your way.

Absolutely you can do it! I had 6 kids(5 living) in my 20s and then my little surprise who is now 5 and I am about to be 46. It is definitely harder but all the best things in life are!

You don’t need validation from anyone else to do what you want!!! Girl do it! I became a first time momma at 35 and had my second at 39! I’m a single momma and I’m doing on my own. You have a husband which will make it easier.

I’m older than all of you and I’m a a single foster mom – three month old and I hope to adopt him. I say go for it! I tried to adopt seven years ago, but he has severe medical challenges. Never give up hope and you’ve got the support of your husband and your mother – No regrets!

thank you. I needed that.

@Melissa thank you. I truly feel my most confident at this age. I'm loving the flow of motherhood and I truly believe I can handle one more. I'm excited about this next journey. Thank you for your kind words.

@Amanda thank you love! And congrats!! You're going to enjoy motherhood.

@Sarah yes! You get it! Energy can get really low sometimes but the fulfillment I get with my little family is incomparable. My husband is an amazing partner in this thing called life. I would have never admitted that I wasn't done having children of it wasn't for his kind and thoughtful ways. He makes me feel safe and seen and he gives unconditional love. I wouldn't want this with anyone else. Thank you so much for your encouragement.

@Shahnaz all the best things in life are hard but oh so rewarding 🌱✨️

thank you!

@Monique it's truly because of my husband. Watching him father our children and providing me with a soft safe life. I feel confident to go after my heart's desires knowing that he'll be right by my side.

I truly thank you so much for the encouragement.

@Susan no regrets! 🫶🏽thank you so much!

@Elaine yay! We got this!

You all have warmed my heart up so much! I have been feeling down and lonely about this. I feel so much better knowing there's a village out here to connect with. I'm so excited for this new journey. This time it's for me. Finally going after something that I truly want instead of repressing inside.

I had my first at 32 so will be in this position if we want another one. My osteopath is pregnant at 43 though which gives me hope 😀

I was 36 when we decided to try again after 18 and 16 year, it did take a little encouragement lol I now have a 6 month old best decision we made, it’s so much easier this time round being an older mum absolutely loving every moment of it🥰
You can do this

My friend had her babies at 45 & 47

I just had my first when I was 33 and turned 34 like a month later. I’m waiting at least a 1.5-2 years before we try again. I need a pregnancy break that was tough. But I can see having at least one more.

It’s on your time, not anyone else’s. If you both want another and can handle the responsibilities and finances that come with it I say go for it. I know someone who just had their first at 44 after multiple years and rounds of ivf and IUI.

@Helen I love that for you guys! I agree, being an older momma is way nicer.

@Hillary thank you for your encouraging words. I think being an older momma comes with wisdom and patience. I'm very happy about this decision.

It’s totally doable. I had my fun early on, married the wrong guy at 25, married the right one at 31, moved across the country away from my family in 2019, had our first child in 2021 when I was 36 and had our second in 2024, the year I turned 40. Do what’s best for you and your family regardless of age or anything else. We have help here from my husband’s mom so having family around definitely helps.

@Valerie thanks Val. Loved the encouraging words. My family is allot of help and my husband is amazing. I'm glad you understand. I just want to fulfill all of my desires while I can.

I'm 35 and trying for baby #2 soon. 35 is not old at all. If you live healthy and active you'll be able to keep up with grand kids no sweat

I'm 37 and pregnant with baby number 2. I have a 4 year old. We do not have a lot of family support as they love far away, but my husband is an amazing father and partner, we are a team and that is the most important thing. At 35 you are not old, nowhere near. I had my first at 32 and there was absolutely no way I was ready to raise a child any younger than that. On our 30's and beyond we have so much more life experience, so much patience and definitely more comfortable with life. Never been a better time, congratulations 👏👏👏

@Shelley thank you for the encouraging words!

I had my first at 30 and my second at 31. This time I'm 35. Is it crazy that I want 1 more but I want them to be 2 under 2 just like my first two?? I definitely wasn't ready to be a mom in my 20s!

Also I will add that my husband is 10 years older than me so I made him start all over! When this baby will be born his oldest is 17. That's a huge gap!

@Emily well you've definitely missed the 3rd being in the same age range as the others but the oldest siblings can offer much support for your new LO. At least that's what I am hoping for. They will be the ringleader to help guide the LO into the family's routine. Plus your heart will be full 🫶🏽

I wanted them all to be 2 years apart. I think they will be great older siblings to this new baby. My two are best friends and I love watching them play together.