Access

At what age do you think unsupervised access is ok with an abusive ex? I have a 7 month old with an abusive ex. Very abusive to me when I was pregnant and also went downhill on drugs. Went to court and got safety orders for us both thankfully 🙏🏻 but these safety orders still allows access. I’m not comfortable at all with it being unsupervised because of his drug use and scary temper. Has anyone dealt with similar? How did you go about this? I’m at a loss here because I can’t hand my 7 month old baby to a drug user and someone who is extremely violent and I won’t give in to his demands. I am going to fight for supervised access, which should be easy considering everything he did and continues to do. But at what age do you think it’s anyways safe? Before all of this and while I was pregnant, he expected to just pick her up and have her a few nights of the week as a NEWBORN. A newborn without her mama, no way. Also his drug use and violence no way. It is so hard because I’m fighting so so much to protect her but unfortunately in my country no matter what or how bad the father is he is always entitled to access. He could be a murderer and he’s still entitled to access. It’s horrible.

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Not me, but my best friend went through a similar situation and she gave her son over for 50-50 custody since that’s what the court agreed to when he was 4 1/2. She made sure though that when he was going there, he had access to a phone and knew how to call or 911 for help if they needed it 🤷‍♀️

Not me, I made mine take me back home and I ghosted him when he was doing drugs, and then i thought he stopped but he didn’t and we took our boy to the atl zoo and otw back he was cocked back ready to swing at me for not giving him head otw back, I didn’t talk to him for days after and he eventually went to jail

Currently have a 16month old who has never met his abusive father. The courts have so far ruled no contact while we go through a fact finding in family court. I refused any contact even supervised and so far it’s held up. Keep fighting. No child should ever be handed over to someone who’s abused their mother in my opinion. Get yourself an amazing barrister for court dates and fight and say no. Supervised visits are only supposed to be temporary, so if he turns up and is fine during these visits the courts will eventually order unsupervised visits which is diabolical. You’ll also be forced to pay half of the costs for all this further subsidising your abuser which is just another fucked up way the system fails women. Don’t agree to anything. Fight fight fight.

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