Honest opinions please - am I being unreasonable….
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I’d be annoyed too, especially giving up the mat leave. I think that’s taking the mick tbh. Also no prior discussion isn’t fair. He has a huge responsibility now. My OH was away with work 2 nights last week and honestly I struggled so much with the heat and a baby not wanting to sleep / 4m regression and that was only 2 nights. If he’s set on going he needs to help come up with some realistic ways you can be supported whilst he’s not there IMO
I'm sorry but I wouldn't be giving away any of my maternity time for my partner to go away. If he wants to go he can find the money and pay himself, not up to me to sacrifice my time. My other half is just back from a stag do but I have a big support network around me who helped me out, do you have anyone who can come help during the day to let you have a rest? X
Absolutely not unreasonable, that should have been a discussion between you and your oh. He should be trying to make sure you have as much prepped as possible before going, could organise other people to come and help and I absolutely would not be giving up my mat leave for him to go on holiday unless it was with us as a family
Thanks guys. I’m not the type of person to say no and so this is playing on my mind. He’s also going away in August with his friends, once for four days and another time for three days. I just think this is all a bit much when our baby is so young. We do have a really good support network, but I feel we rely on them quite a lot and I don’t want to take advantage so that he can effectively go on holiday. Additionally it does grate on me that I would have lost a week of mat leave for this effectively. Sometimes it seems as though he doesn’t realise life has changed since we had a baby and we can’t have as many weekends away with friends as we once did. I worry if I keep saying yes to things I will end up resenting him and wonder whether he will continue to expect to be able to go away with his friends so much. On the other hand, I want to be happy I don’t want to be petty about things.
Okay now you've said he's going away twice more, that's a bit much. A stag do is one thing. But 3 holidays in the space of a few months is a bit of a piss take. It seems like he doesn't that life is different now you have a child. I'd definitely have a word with him. Let him know you're not happy with it, you're completely valid in your feelings.
Don’t get me started on the Europa league final! My husband has also booked to go Monday - Friday for that pissing final, we have had many of arguments. Our babies are so young I don’t think it’s ok
My other half has just got back yesterday after being away since last Monday and we have a 3 month old and a 2 year old. Didn't bother me 🤔 but then I've known about it for a year so I always knew it was coming.
You're not being unreasonable. Your baby is so young and it's so hard being a parent on so little sleep. Could you have someone help you out? Maybe have someone stay over with you to give you a hand?