Feeling upset hearing other birth stories

I was devastated that I had to have an emergency section, my birth story didn’t go even a tiny bit how i’d hoped. honestly for me it was just time that’s helped, which i know is a really unhelpful answer but i just want you to know you’re not alone in this!❤️

I understand I had an emergency c section. My birth story did not go the way I had hoped at all. You are not alone in this at all

I had an emergency c section and I feel like I missed out as I never experienced labour or contractions and I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately too. My time in hospital was a complete blur. Feel free to message me if you want to chat

Deffo not alone! It doesn’t happen all the time but I go through phases where I hear about birth stories that went exactly how I would have hoped and it makes me sad too! X

Honestly, I don't know if this helps at all, but human births are not easy. For all the talk about how we're "built for this," things can go horribly wrong in many ways, moreso than any other mammal. We have long gestation, massive heads and brains, our newborns are virtually helpless for months while other mammals walk right out of the womb... It's not easy. Human birth is incredibly difficult and dangerous. So don't be hard on yourself that it all didn't go as planned. Sometimes people get lucky and their births are easy, but it just means that you had a lot more to go through. The fact that you survived all of this makes you a superstar.

It’s not weird at all. It’s common and natural to feel what you feel I have some regrets in my birth journey but ultimately I was grateful it happened the way it did too Things happen that we have no control over 🫶🏻

I feel exactly the same! Of course I'm grateful that my baby is okay, but also feel sad for the experience I didn't have. Makes me feel like a bit of a failure that I couldn't do things "properly". I'm starting counselling so really hoping that helps.

Thank you so much ladies, it’s really reassuring to see am not the only one feeling like this. It really has helped me immensely feel better. I’m so sorry to you all as well for the experiences you all went through as well. No one can take away that from you, you’re all so brave and have shown great strength for even replying to this post with your experiences. Sending all my love and prayers to you all, we will get through this and come out of it better ❤️

i am happy that i got out alive .. i dont even try to compare with others and they will never understand how it feels when you have difficult labor.. my pregnancy wasnt easy after c section i stayed in hospital for 3weeks and another month at home till i recovered and was able to walk .. pp depression lasted over a year .. i am grateful that i have healthy girl but after what i went thrue i am not having any more children and it definitely changed me ..

EMDR therapy is helping me process my very traumatic birth x

I feel exactly the same and also get upset. Everything was going smoothly until it wasn’t. I’m also grateful my LO is ok and healthy but I didn’t have a good experience and it haunts me. All the things I missed out on, the things I wanted but didn’t get, the fact I couldn’t hold my baby for 3 days 🥺 My brain often tells me to have another and try again but I know I’ll never get the experience I wanted, because the issue for me is an infection that will come back each time I’m in labour, so I’ll never be able to give birth naturally basically