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I feel like I’m the only mother who actually enjoys a break from my baby. Be honest, does this make me a bad parent?

Ever since my little girl was born my parents or my partners parents have had her once a week. A midweek break to my parents for me, andSundays with my partners parents. I don’t particularly miss her in this time and She’ll be gone for up to 8 hours sometimes. We moved into our house 2 days before my little girl was born so we didn’t have much time to move in and make our house a home, so gradually over the months we’ve been doing the house up which is what we use these days away from her to sort. I read about how most mothers can’t imagine leaving their little ones for a few hours yet I left my little one with my partners parents for 48 hours, when she was 5 weeks old, while we went on a mini holiday for a break (I had a bad time in hospital and little one in NICU, needed a reset) and she’s stayed overnight another time. I love her and care for her deeply but I just don’t get that feeling other mothers seem to get around leaving their babies. Not sure if this is normal?

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Ohh gorgeous mama! It doesn’t make you a bad parent and it is completely normal. Everyone is different and that’s a beautiful thing. It sounds like in the lead up to and in having your baby it was a pretty stressful time with a lot going on. I think it’s awesome that you’ve recognised that some time for you is not a bad thing at all. Seems like you trust these people to look after your baby and it’s a great way to foster a great relationship between baby and grand parents as well as get that time for yourself. Whether it’s self care, date nights or organising things. Do I love it when my older kids go to their honorary grandparents to stay for a sleep over? I sure as heck do! Do I love them and eventually miss them? Definitely! I have 3 (my oldest turned 3 end of April) and it’s just me so getting a break is something I really do enjoy.

Oh I could only dream of this. I've never had more than an hour or two away from my baby. She's breastfed mostly so I can't leave her long and we don't have family nearby so no one could look after her anyway. But I know they wouldn't take her until she's much older anyway, especially overnight. My husband and I never get time alone together. If doesn't make you a bad mother at all. I long for having time to myself and finding who I am again. I'll get that when I go back to work in July. Which also makes me feel bad to be going back so soon! We have to take care of ourselves too.. and whatever you do you'll probably end up feeling guilty, but that just means you care ❤️

I’ve learnt that - do what works best for you and your baby. You’re not a bad parent, everyone parents different and that’s not anyone’s business. You love your baby and that’s that 💕

You probably feel good about it also because she is with people that you trust and will give her love as well. You are just lucky to have that much support, don't feel guilty, just enjoy!

Sounds healthy to me . You’re leaving her with trusted family . Enjoy the break mama

God I love taking a break 🤣. When someone babysit I'm rushing out that door like "see ya" 🤣. It's completely normal to want a break and it will good for the baby to see you come and go at times so they don't get separation anxiety

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