in Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Just want to vent my heart out!

I’m 4.5 months pregnant living with my husband and his family. His brother and brother’s wife also live with us. I have to do all the chores of the house myself. With very minimal help from others. My sister in law is newly married and sleeping all the time. She wakes up at 10:30-11am, sleeps again in the evening for 2-3 hours. She doesn’t know how to cook. My husband is busy all day with work. I work from home and have a hectic job with tons of household chores to do. I don’t know how to tackle my mental breakdowns. I don’t care whether or not someone else is doing anything with the chores, I’m just concerned how to get myself focused mentally and emotionally strong. I’m having breakdowns constantly because I don’t feel I have enough emotional support. I don’t know if it’s because of hormonal stress in pregnancy but it’s taking a toll on me. How do I just think about myself and my baby and do things best for my physical and mental health.

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You sound like you live in an Asian family I assume? Honest advice - move out and focus on yourself and your husband now. It’s not ok to take on the emotional burden of your in laws and it definitely does not get any easier with a child (my own personal experience). You can message me privately if you need more advice or someone to rant to

You need to have a serious conversation with your husband regarding how you feel and have him set boundaries with his brother so that he could relay the message to his wife. You shouldn’t have to be cleaning after grown people while they lounge off as if they’re in a spa. Honesty, I (as if it matters🤣) DO NOT CARE what you mind doing. YOU WILL NOT be cleaning after grown people while they SLEEP! Unless it’s your children and husband. Newly wed my ass! They’ve been playing house before they even became married 🙄. Regardless your husband needs to stand up for you. You’re not their slave! Pregnant or not!

Why are there grown people not contributing? If you're not bothered by the lack of help, and your husband works often, do you know what it is that you need exactly?

Why doesn't anyone else help with the chores? I would focus on tasks related to you, your husband, and baby. You shouldn't be required to take care of everything with no help.

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