Why does no one talk about this. (Venting)

Why does no one talk about the part of motherhood where you loose ALL your friends. And any time you put your baby first you’ll make others upset. It’s like as a single mom I value the people in my life so much that I keep my circle small. I’m always there for literally everyone but no one can be there for me or simply understand when I have to put my babies health first. I’m literally a single SAHM providing and caring for not only for myself but my baby and 2 other family members like

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so sorry you feel this way!😢 only a message away if you want to talk🫶🏼

when I was pregnant with my son at 20 I literally lost all my friends, they wanted to go out partying all the time and i obviously couldn’t do that but even when I had my son i wasn’t interested in that sort of stuff anymore so they stopped reaching out to me and it was the worst feeling because i felt so lonely😢

I now keep my circle small and have 1 old school best friend that I’m back in regularly contact with and i’m pregnant with baby #2 and she’s the only friend that’s being supportive and being excited for me!

I’m looking for some mum friends though! so if you live close to me I’ll be more than happy for you to message for a meet up?🫶🏼

Sorry to hear this. When I got pregnant everyone stopped talking to me, even my best friend of 8 years just ghosted me the second I told her I was expecting.

Motherhood is lonely sometimes. Just have to find the sliver of peace where you can.

It does get better though, once you find your people. Now start looking for friends that have kids around the same age as yours. Me and my daughter just went on our first play date the other week and it was so refreshing. I felt at peace being able to vent about my mom problems with another mom who actually felt the same way, all while watch our little ones play together.

It can be done, it may take time.

Sammmmmme here ugh it’s frustrating I have a friend but she lives several hours away

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Should I wake baby up to feed?

First time mum here, my baby is 2 months old today. Should I be waking her for night feeds? During the day she feeds every 2–3 hours, but at night she usually sleeps from around 11pm to about 3am, and I’ve been waking her then. Is that okay, or should I let her sleep?

Night time help!

Hi! My baby boy is nearly 6 months old and every night he wakes up anytime from 2am onwards and will be awake for well over two hours.
I’ve tried changing his naps during the day, changing his bedtimes and yet nothing seems to help!
Any tips that might help this exhausted mummy?
I don’t mind the wake ups if he would settle straight away but he views it as a whole wake window.

Newborn sleep for 9 hours

Hello mamas, my newborn is 6 weeks old. Last night she slept for 9 hours without waking up for a feed. The previous night she slept for 8 hours as well. During the day she had quite a lot awake periods and she was eating well. She also gained 1kg for a month which the midwife said it's very good. Is she okay like that and should I wake her up to feed her during the night?

Crazy MIL??

I’ve always found my mother in law tricky - she has a hideous nervous energy about her and finds everything absolutely hilarious which sets me right on edge. We’ve just had a baby and she came down to meet her. It was very soon after baby was born so we were pretty knackered and I’d suffered bad hypertension in hospital and had had to stay in for a week. She had wanted to come and see me there but I managed to get my husband to say no- she would have not made my blood pressure any better!
So she came to see the baby a couple of weeks after with her partner- who btw had a chest and they didn’t tell us.
My MIL was at her most hyper and difficult. She stayed hours and hours and held the baby all the way though- fed her her bottle (just took it off my husband) without asking and took photos and posted them without asking.
Then I was changing the babies nappy. Baby had terrible nappy rash at the time and was screaming with pain - making me want to cry. My MIL just sat there watching - hooting with laughter. 🫠
But the worst thing is she made these WEIRD comments - there was a photo of baby just wearing a vest and she said she “looked a hussy.” Then later when we were describing about the baby having phototherapy- which was horribly traumatic- my husband said how he tucked her into his denim jacket to keep warm - his mothers response was “ah so she likes a bit of rough???”
I think in her mind she was being really funny but I was appalled by her comments. In the end I made and excuse, went upstairs to have a shower and then sat there until they left. I used to feel fed up and weary at the thought of her but now I feel pure anger. It’s tricky as obviously she’s my husbands mum. She also gave us the deposit for our house and is generally generous in that way. She and my husband have a really odd relationship in my opinion- I’m super close to my fam and they all live nearby so we see them a lot
His mum lives in Devon and we’re in Kent which is something to be thankful for.
After they finally went she messaged my husband and asked to come and stay for a week. Thankfully he has the sense to say no. But Christ what is wrong with the women? Those comments have made me feel so hostile towards her. Should I just get over it??

Baby won’t sleep

Somebody please help me.
She’s crying, I’m crying. Idk what to do. Husband isn’t here rn and my mom’s asleep.
She’s not hungry, diapers freshly changed, she doesn’t seem uncomfortable in any way. She just seems tired but can’t fall asleep. She’s been doing this for a few days now, just fighting sleep. I refuse to let her cry it out and I’m doing everything I know and can do at this time. She’ll take the boob but keep stretching away every few seconds. She keeps chewing on her hand like she’s hungry but won’t eat cause she already did 30 minutes ago. I’m just at a loss and starting to get stressed. Nothing is helping.

Nappy recommendations

My little boy has started sleeping for approx 5 hours at night (which I am very grateful for!😴), but when he wakes up for a feed he is often wet through as his nappy can’t hack it for that long. Are there any recommendations for a good overnight nappy that should hopefully contain it?

We are currently using mamia nappies but have also tried pampers and Tesco. I swore by mamia with my daughter, but they must have changed them since then!

Thank you 🩷