Anyone else feel disappointed and sad on Mother's day?
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My first Mother’s Day and this is exactly how I feel right now.. and it hurts knowing his first Father’s Day this year I’ll literally make the biggest effort to make sure he has such a special day, and literally feel spoilt. Even hinted what I wanted and he still couldn’t be bothered going to the shops to get it.
I feel this, my ex husband never did anything either and unfortunately my partner hasn’t done anything, so I made plans for Mother’s Day breakfast and then I’ll buy myself something. A sad as it is, at the end of the day we are mum and we have superpowers that dads don’t. We can multitask like geniuses and keep a household running. We deserve a day but hey if they can’t do something then we might aswell treat ourselves. The best presents I’ve ever gotten is from my kids bringing home Mother’s Day gifts from daycare and school, yes it’s never much but it is the best feeling to have that moment with your little humans to celebrate their beautiful little creation that they made just for you on Mother’s Day, compared to a generic gift that so many mums have. I hope that makes sense. I’m disheartened but my kids make it special regardless.
@Bella I love that 🩵 I can’t wait for my little one to be old enough to understand Mother’s Day, even a homemade card would be the sweetest.
If he puts no effort in for Mother’s day, don’t put any effort in for his Father’s Day and see how he likes it
I might be the odd one out but I’d much prefer the handmade crafts than any gift or outting. I personally think social media and influencers have turn mother day into a huge event when it used to be about coffee in bed with the family and homemade gifts. (That’s all we did growing up and mum said it’s far better than any champagne breakfast amongst 100other families) However, you are allowed to expect more if you want and I would literally just say “I am disappointed in the lack of effort” and if he doesn’t get it with that, he doesn’t care as much as you do. At father days don’t do anything apart from the crafts and see if he says anything.
Life is too short to let a guy do the bare minimum while you do much more. Set clear expectations of what you are expecting going forward. Some men will do the minimum they can get away with. It is not okay that SO many women get next to nothing for Mother’s Day and then they go all out for Father’s Day? I get that these women aren’t being petty and that’s good, but it’s also allowing disrespect and that is not okay. Be clear and loud about what you expect
Yeah my first Mother’s Day last year was a vs piss poor effort of nothing. Not even a card. This year is the same. Despite the effort I put in the years before our child with our “fur children”. After this year I’ve decided to not set my expectations too high. I’ll just be disappointed AGAIN.
Single mama here, currently 100% care of baby which will change soon as we’re about to start mediation. I think I’d like to start a ritual with my baba that we have pancakes in bed together, watch a movie of her choosing, and open presents, mainly that I got for her haha because I know I’ll probably have to share this day eventually with her other parent/mum. Then if baby goes to her other parents house, I’ll make myself chocolate dipped fruit and drink a whole bottle of expensive champagne and treat myself like I’d expect a lover should ✨ 💖
Mine stuffed up my first Mother’s Day so I said to never feel that pain again I expect him to plan nothing I choose what I want to do that day and I choose my own present and get it BUT when it comes to Father’s Day same he chooses and he buys his own I’m not giving my all and getting hurt when it’s my turn
You're not alone in feeling this way, I asked my hubby to make a plan for mothers day well over a month ago and he made a last minute gift purchase, and that was it, I have a 6 month old, its my first mothers day and it's sadly something I'll remember forever