Am I wrong ?

So the other day, my Father-in-law , calls my husband and tells him that no matter how much I try that I will never replace his mom and I think that was like a super red flag to me. Over the course of my husband and I’s relationship there have been several comments made by his mother saying things like “keep my son’s hot dog out of your bun.” “ I’m a psycho.” “ I’m manipulative.” And basically that I was the wrong choice in bride. Now that hurts me to my core because it seems like my husband doesn’t really stand up to them. I feel like I’ve been dealing this for a long time with even comment saying that my children will never be his brother’s nieces because they came out of me. This family has done more to me than I can even imagine. I’m trying to stay with my husband because I love him and we have two children together, but as of recently, we got off a very intense phone call with his family, and they said some very nasty things, and they continuously say and do these nasty things and paint me as the villain. My husband is saying that because we cut all communication communications with them as of a week ago, I should stop talking about it and being upset, but I feel like this conversation was my last straw with this family in between the issues that me and my husband are having right now I’m ready to wash my hands with the entire family. I’m seriously contemplating finishing school and getting a divorce because I’m generally just not happy anymore and it seems like if that whole family were to just get out of my life then I would be fine but another factor is the kids so I could really use some advice or some help or some brutal honesty because I’m at a loss.

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Personally if that was the situation I wouldn't have continued dating him let alone marry him and have children

I'm really sorry you're going through this. If he can't stick up for you then I'd leave, do you work or are you a stay at home Mom?

If leaving is what you choose then before telling him make sure everything is in order, you have a job and money on the side for a place and most likely a lawyer for custody, look for a place to live with space for you and the kids or if you have any of your family see if they could help

I know I just feel so stupid I was 18 when I married him and 17 when I met him

That's similar to me and my husband, you're not stupid, your situation sucks and I'm really sorry you are going through it

Talk to him, if he can't change and stick up for you then it's definitely a reason to leave cause he either doesn't care that much or he agrees with them

Are you saying he's stopped communicating with his family in solidarity with you?

yes ! I brought them back around for the sake of him and our kids ! I felt like it was the right think I felt like I was keeping them away bc I didn’t like them yk ? So I gave them another chance as grandparents. My husband didn’t think it was a good idea but the comment his dad made made me so upset I wanted to talk about it

So he loves you.
You love him.
He's chosen you, not his family.
Why do you want to leave him?

You should be treated respectfully by his family.
I'm sorry that's not happening
That's their problem
Win by living your best life

What would you do if you knew nobody was going to judge you?

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Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.

First Day/Night Out without Baby

So I’m due to go on a hen party next weekend just for the afternoon/night and I’m soo nervous to leave baby girl. She will be with her dad (my husband) and I know he’s more than capable but I’m so nervous to leave her. He struggles sometimes with bed time as baby girl really likes to fight her sleep so I end up doing bedtime 9 times out of 10. And I’m worried he will just let her “cry it out” for a while before he goes to pick her up and settle her. I really want to go out and have a good time. But I’m just nervous about going out anyway in general because I’m still not 100% loving my new mum body. But mostly I’m nervous about leaving baby as it will be the longest we’ve been apart 🙈

Nursery

What's people's thoughts on nursery? Is it better to choose somewhere closer to where you live or better to choose somewhere in the middle for different people that may be picking baby up? We've just started looking and just don't know which is better

My mil is the reason I see my husband as less of a man

LA little back story, my mil got a new bf last year and a month into dating they insisted he be called grandpa. Fast forward to a few months ago mother-in-law and her boyfriend‘s behavior has turned nasty after father-in-law has come back into the picture. After mother-in-law and her boyfriend’s behavior at family events, such as my son’s baptism, my Christmas party and my father’s Christmas party, I told my husband to tell his mom that her boyfriend is no longer to be called Grandpa. fast-forward three months and he still hasn’t told her because he doesn’t want to upset her feelings. Now her bf wants to bring his son over to my house to meet my kids or his “grandkids” and they didn’t ask my opinion. I told my husband how I feel about it and he’s not telling her no because he doesn’t want to upset her. I’m starting to see my husband as less of a man because of his mom and putter her above me.

Am I over reacting? What should I do?

Correcting eating with hands?

My 1yo eats with utensils perfectly fine, my 3yo is capable of doing it too but doesn't like to and prefers to use her hands. I don't know how to correct this at home without it sounding lowkey like nonsense. We have finger foods, other cultures eat "messy" foods with their hands, we teach to eat until your tummy feels comfortable so idk how to explain that even tho eating with her hands is the most comfortable that she isn't supposed to?? Because even as an adult I don't see a problem with it unless it'd be disrespectful to the chef/host 😅 Do I just say we need to practice at home just in case a future chef/host would be offended by it? 😭