Somebody please tell me how is it even possible to heal from a person while you’re carrying their child

I feel like I’m falling apart my bd says really mean things about my stomach and says that it reminds him of what he didn’t want, he constantly lies and tells people that I trapped him. He calls me ugly and says that he can’t stand to look me on top of that he treated me horribly on Mother’s Day. I’m trying my hardest to kill him with kindness because I love him and he wasn’t always this mean to me. I’m 8 months pregnant and I’ve been having a lot complications from stressing over him somebody please tell me what to do because it hurts so bad that I want to let him go but I don’t have it in me to do it. I feel broken right now💔💔💔

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Personally I think you should walk away even if its just for a few weeks giving you the time and space to decide what you actually want from the relationship

You either want what best for you and your baby or you don’t. You should let him, go someone will love you and your baby and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I went through something similar and when I moved on it was so much better you should do the same

Hey.
I think you should get out whilst you can. It’s not healthy for you, especially as you’re pregnant.
It will be hard, but it will definitely get better.
You don’t deserve to be treated like this.

My ex was absolutely horrible to me, in a different way to your situation my ex was physical & I couldn’t get away from him in the end I had to move away I’m almost 6 months pregnant now & I find it easier being around people & having support you are beautiful & deserve so much better I also put all my focus on to my baby because they need us & they’re all that matters there’s a billion men out there & in future you will meet someone who sees your worth & deserves you just take a year or 2 to heal & be a mummy 🥰 feel free to message me anytime

if he will treat you like this now when you’re baby comes it will only get worse you’ll find yourself more overwhelmed with him there then with him gone because he won’t be much of help he will stress you out more then helping hopefully you can try to build up the strength to walk away I been in this situation before and it suck’s

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