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Big dilemma

My sister(actually a cousin who was raised by my mom) and I have had an up and down relationship over the last several years- her husband is a piece of shit. My family has learned to accept him in over the last five years. He has been calm, insanely wealthy, and has taken care of our family in many ways.

I had my daughter a year ago and my sister had hoped to be the godmother. I didn’t choose my sister and I chose my best friend instead.

My sister has been a very big support for me and my husband, as she has helped when my child was ill that went on, babies sits whatever I need and it’s always there for advice.

My daughter has slept over my sister‘s house three times in the last year . There has been numerous comments and behaviors from my sister and her husband towards my daughter that me and my husband find unsettling.

When my daughter is at her house, she sleeps in bed with them . Her husband made a comment to me one day while we all went to the zoo together” don’t worry she’s fine. She’s with her parents.” Referring to my sister and her husband. My sister has made numerous comments to me telling me how much her husband enjoys spending time with my daughter because she reminds him of her and his daughter. My sister is constantly asking for my daughter to go over there to her house and to hang out with her. There are their comments that have been made the wrong way.

It was brought to my attention by my mom and my sister is planning to have a surprise birthday party for my one year-old daughter next weekend. My sister is inviting her friends and a couple of my family members these friends of course do not know my daughter, my sister is buying a cake, making food and decorating her home.
Me and my husband are throwing my daughter a birthday party with all of our friends and family. Day of her birthday we’re singing happy birthday as a family and with her grandparents. And the weekend of her birthday we are taking her somewhere special.

I truly love the support of my sister however, I feel like she is crossing a line. Some of these things that she has said I find very unsettling. I feel like harder husband are playing house with my child. My sister has five children of her own, but she has raised. Her attempting to throw my daughter a surprise birthday party is icing on the cake. What should I do?