Need to vent

Little background info...my BD and I have 3 kids together. Our youngest is 6 months old. He has emotionally and verbally abused me for years cheated on me 8 years ago...I forgave him and we moved past that. But he constantly tore me down and made me feel like I was nothing so I had to end things even though I still loved him and it broke my heart(I know it doesn't make any sense). We broke up 3 months ago and he called me tonight to tell me he started dating someone a month ago and they're in love. He says he wants me and the kids to meet her and he wants me and her to be friends. Is it dumb that him telling me that broke my heart all over again?! We were together for 15 years and he can just fall in love in a month?! I have the kids all the time and I'm still heartbroken and crying myself to sleep. When he's perfectly fine off dating and living it up. Isn't 2 months after ending a 15 year relationship too soon?!

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Not dumb at all! You were in love with him and it’s hard especially having kids together

You cant see it yet. But he’s done you a massive favour. You deserve better. You’ll get through the other side of this. And when you do, you’ll be grateful he aint your problem anymore. Stay strong x

He sounds like a massive narcissist. You’re better off without him and it will all make sense in time lovely. Keep strong and throw yourself into anything that makes you happy. It’s good he is out of your life as much as possible. Your heartbreak is so valid and I am so sorry that you are going through this but I promise you better things will come your way ❤️

Try not to entertain that bs keep healing ❤️ I’m trying to leave a 3 year relationship with 4 children I’m trying to get to where you are

That's horrible. I'm sorry to hear this. I'm fresh out of a narcissistic relationship with my BD too

That's not dumb at all!!! You 2 were together for a long time

@Louise Thank you. Part of me knows this is for the best but another part of me is hurt. I almost feel like I'm mourning our relationship and what could have been if things were different. He was my best friend and my other half. Now my best friend is gone and I'm doing everything on my own. I've never felt so alone.

@Elisha I know you're probably right but I just feel like he sucker punched me with that call last night. Our youngest isn't even a year old yet... hasn't even taken her first steps and he is able to move on and it's like me and my kids don't exist.

So toxic of him. Perfectly normal that it feels hurtful. You have to move on, but it will take a while. Lean on your friends, focus on yourself. Do not meet this person or be her friend, for like…years. Do not communicate with him for anything more than logistics. He doesn’t deserve your heart anymore. Google narcissistic abuse and see if it resonates with you.

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