Baby shower is it for the mom or for the baby or both

The baby & you are one, your baby doesn't have a voice yet. So I would argue that the baby shower is for you. Tell your family to shove it

I'm not having one

My family too. I just let Jesus take the wheel. Less stress for me and if they try to bring up things that will possibly stress me out I ignore it or tell them that I’m not dealing with it concerning the babyshower since it’s “not about me”

Definitely for mom. Baby won’t be there to interact with anyone… it’s not a birthday party. It’s for you to be blessed (hopefully) with love and gifts from people who care about you.

It never ceases to amaze me that even in 2025, people still feel the need to tell women—especially mothers—how to feel and what to do with their bodies and their choices. You are the mom. It’s your baby—yours and your partner’s. If you’re not comfortable having someone present, that is entirely your decision. If you don’t want a baby shower, that’s your choice. If you don’t want in-laws or anyone else in the waiting room or at the hospital, that’s also your call. You are the one carrying this baby. You need to prioritize your mental and physical well-being, and do whatever feels right for you. And frankly, you can tell anyone who doesn’t respect that—politely or not—to go F themselves. If it’s not obvious, I’ve been hearing a lot of “you should do this” and “you should do that” lately. I don’t mean to project, but I want to make it clear: you are absolutely not being selfish. You’re setting boundaries, and that’s healthy.

Its whatever you want it to be in my opinion. I have heard first baby showers are a lot focused on baby at least gift wise since new mom getting essentials and then second baby shower is more focused on items for mom since many essentials are probably already had from first baby. But first baby shower i would say still put essentials for you on registry. Sorry your family is giving bad vibes in this time that should be happy and celebrated

I've always been a firm believer that baby showers are to celebrate the parents + the baby. But you should definitely be doing what feels right for *you*. My husband + I made most of the decisions beforehand + are now having the final say for anything anyone suggests. The only thing that's been a tad bit irritating is that we're having our shower at my MIL's, so she's inviting people I don't know. So it makes me a bit uncomfortable

The baby shower is typically to celebrate baby and mother and to help with baby items as well as items for mama during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. As for the mama being celebrated she does have say on what items she prefers as well as who she is comfortable being around and who she'd like to celebrate with.

Both!! You’re growing the baby so….

i’d say both. this is a time for you and your loved ones to celebrate and come together for this incredible milestone..i’m sorry they’re making it difficult for you. you deserve to feel celebrated and appreciated too.

Usually it’s to get stuff for the baby like boxes of diapers and wipes clothes and blankets just to save you some money but it’s always nice to get mom stuff too, I’m hoping for some post partum care stuff

definitely for both parents and the baby, it is more of a maternal thing as opposed to paternal but it’s an open invitation of energy to those who you trust and care to be present in your bebe’s life.. there should be no debate about it coming from anyone other than the parents. don’t feel guilty for others imposition 🩷