Am I the asshole?

My bd’s other kids lowkey ruined my daughters bday. He has a 3 and 6 year old and my baby turned 1 the other day. We had a small celebration at an airbnb. First, the youngest one started screaming her head off saying I hit her. Thankfully the older one told my bd she was lying. Then the 3 year old kept throwing tantrums whenever my bd tried to hold my daughter cause she’s so jealous and attached to her dad. My bd couldn’t interact with my daughter at all without the 3 year old crying and throwing her arms out until he picked her up. Instead of my bd disciplining them, he lets them do whatever at my daughters expense. Both the kids were popping all the balloons, ruining the decorations, knocking on neighbors doors till we got complaints, running into all the pics I was trying to take of my daughter alone, grabbing her gifts as soon as I opened them not allowing my daughter to use them. The 3 year old even ripped a book out my daughters hands making her cry. She also licked the cake despite being told a million times not to touch it. 🙄🙄 Overall they were complaining and whining the whole time making everything about them. I get they’re young but I feel like they’re too old to be acting like that. When the 3 year old had a party recently, my bd wanted my daughter to go but I told him the baby would take the attention off his daughter. So It just annoyed me that nobody cared enough on my daughters bday. It’d be fine if they were well behaved but they’re not. at all. Mind you my bd already spends so much more time with them than my baby. I know it’s not the end of the world but do ya’ll get me???

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His kids normally like me but they were treating me and my daughter like crap. its so much more I didn’t include.

I wouldn't invite them to any future parties for your daughter unless they change

I agree they need discipline children only act spoiled unless u let them poor baby couldn't enjoy her bday

They’re children. Three and six is hardly “too old to be acting like that”, and there’s probably a reason they are acting out. They might not even fully understand why they’re acting out, and you can help them navigate their behavior. As a parent in their life i think the age appropriate thing for you to do would be to try and understand why they are acting this way, and try to solve the problem. Excluding them from parties (even your own baby) imo isn’t the way. I don’t know how long you’ve been in their lives, but sometimes kids take a little while getting used to this new adjustment. I wouldn’t hold this against them or dwell on their “jealousy” because it seems like you have some of your own resentment towards the situation and that is something yall should let go of. You can set the example and teach them how to be patient, kind, respectful, and forgiving. It’ll make for a much happier family. Even when it’s hard, you got this! Happy birthday to your baby

@Paige I agree with you first thing I thought was 3 year old and a 6 year old are still very very young. I don’t think they did anything intentionally wanting to ruin your baby’s birthday. Both my siblings are that age and believe me I know they are a nightmare but they don’t intentionally ruin a special occasion or any occasion in fact. Do his children come round in general or was that a one off.

I feel that next time her birthday comes around take her somewhere & celebrate her birthday just so they can’t come because that was just rude & disrespectful & just plain old wrong

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