Has anybody ever felt like they simply don’t know how to connect with or bond with people ?

I feel this way, but about friends mostly. I feel like I'm always the odd one out or there's something that puts people off about me. Just wanted to let you know you're not alone in this xx

thank you for responding ❤️ and I hope you can meet a genuine real friend soon girl!! Have you had any luck on here ??

me too I feel the same way honestly I gave up making any real friends

@Carrie Scruggs I'm 39 now, never had a good friendship circle, maybe one or two but then moved away. I just wish it wasn't so hard :(

Not made any on here yet, but i am new to peanut xx

same here. I don't think I've given up, but I don't seek people or anymore. I just keep to myself and my family.

Yes, I am the same. I’ve had a few good friendships but never deep enough to maintain them after school or college. I envy my husband who has a close bond with his core friends since kindergarten. He sometimes sympathises with me saying that he wishes I had someone like that especially now that I’m pregnant. There’s a lot I keep to myself. I’m not close to anyone like that even family members. Always keeping a surface level conversation with everyone. But I’m not intentionally doing it either, if someone chooses to converse a bit deeper I might just pour my heart out, and then I regret it, because then it gets awkward for them too. I mean, what’s the point if you haven’t built the connection to have such open conversations with anyone. Guess I’m just venting with you here.

it’s very hard ! I’m realizing as an adult that I’ve never had deep talks with my parents , none with my dad all of our conversations are surface and we can’t hold a conversation together I’m just being fake when I’m around him but my son loves him so I go, my mom and I are naturally close but my mom never expresses anything or shows emotion really other than if she’s fussing about something … we’ve never had a real deep mom daughter heart to heart with tears lol about things concerning our relationship, I tried recently but my mom didn’t get it, we bump heads often sometimes bc we’re having two different conversations … but my (moms parents) were also super stone cold unemotional people so idk, Anyway lol I guess I’m trying to undo these closed off surface level relationships with the people I should’ve had the closest ones with in hopes that it’ll make me more open w/ people I pray you find at least one mommy friend ! It definitely would be nice !

and clearly idk what to and what not to share either lol

Oh wow, I know exactly what you’re talking about. Yes hopefully, and you too.

I have the same thoughts and self doubts about myself too. I have barely got any real friends and often times don't even know what to say or how to interact with others. I feel like I may be giving some sort of negative vibe which is why noone really bothers to connect with me even why I really put in an effort.

same girl like where do people find the words 😂 to just talk like endlessly! what a gift lol !

And I have a couple close friends but I don’t have anything to say to them either! I’ve always been the quiet friend but it’s like worse than it’s ever been and it took me so long to make those friends! But they’re not moms yet so we live completely diff lives now and when I do see them I’m just like hey nothing new going on w/ me catch them up about my son and mom stuff and then they tell me about all the stuff they have going on and I’m like cool great okay okay and after that I’ve got nothing 😂 are any of the friends you do have moms? But even if I meet random moms I’m still awkward lol I can talk about kids for a little while but then I’ve got nothing often times !

Yep, same here. Although, my kids are mostly grown, my oldest is 22 and my youngest is 16, so I barely have anything to talk about regarding them most of the time.