Dad struggles

I’d say he just has to push through and keep trying to build it. They’ll get there.
If you’re bottle feeding then let him do it at least 1 point each day so he can build that trust and closeness. Does her change his nappy? Because that will help too, especially if he’s talking to him whilst doing that.
Our little one is also 12 weeks and always smiles at her daddy and talks to him when he comes home from work.

Aww, I hope our little one will do the same soon too! He does the bottles when he comes home as well as the nappies. I get a break then 😂 I pretty much step back as soon as he comes home and I see that bond they have but I just think he can’t see it because he thinks my bond with him is stronger. I just hate seeing him upset like this 💔

I know what you mean and how you feel. I felt the same when my husband had the same feeling. I felt bad myself for having a good relationship with my daughter. She’d cry when he came home and took her off me and he’d get disheartened and give up. Don’t worry though, it sounds like you guys are doing the best things so you’ll get there ☺️

My husband constantly jokes that I’m the “favourite parent” and I’m just like no, I’m the milk lady lol I remind him all the time that when our son is older, he’s definitely going to be the fun parent that teaches him how to ride a bike etc as that kind of thing just isn’t my forte. I guess it’s just building the bond until then!

Hey, this sounds super similar to us when my baby was born, my husband said the same, he was naturally with my toddler and I was with baby so he felt he didn’t have a bond. It really upset me too so I know how you’re feeling. I started going to bed earlier than him and leaving him up with baby for an hour. They used to do skin to skin, play time and he’d give him his last feed before bed. After a week my husband said he felt so much better and now they have a great bond! Might he worth giving a go xxx

As women we get our oxytocin from comforting our babies, meeting the needs of our babies and soothing them! The dads/partners will get oxytocin from having fun with the babies, playing, rough and tumble and all the fun stuff 🤣 so right now some babies still feel like they are part of us (4th trimester) and we are safe the person but give it time, my daughter now 100% prefers her dad 😂🩷

I think most of the dad who work away from home feel that way. My husband used to say our baby doesn’t like him cos the baby didn’t smile at him but now the baby smiles at him and he just realized it took him a little longer to smile at him just cos I was home and played with him more. As the baby gets more alert and starts to play more he would realize that they actually know him and love him too