Should I let dad take the kids away nearly every day?

Okay so what do you need from him? Like what would be the ideal situation for you? Personally if baby’s dad and grandparents could take my little one for a couple of hours throughout the week I would find the very helpful as I could get things done and then also relax in that time, watch my programmes, and then when I do have my kids back I can spend time bonding with them because all the chores are done and I’ve had time to reset x

I will add not everyday but maybe 2x a week x

Maybe compromise with him? Instead of everyday taking the kid(s), maybe do 3 days a week-take them to see the family and get out every other day alternating so it gives you a chance to clean and relax without the kid(s). Sounds like he semi wants to help but I'd also ask if he could help around the house, too or with the kids at home as a family and y'all go out together and not always with his family. It's okay to have breaks without the kids, sometimes it's needed. They're going to have to understand the normal day to day life eventually so it's okay for them to witness it at home, you don't have to be perfect or always have them do something. I have the same aged kids and we're home 95% of the time, we take them outside or to play when it's nice and we don't have to worry about cleaning or laundry, some days are getting out and doing errands and others are lazy days. The boys love it because kids do get overstimulated just as much as adults and it's good to have a structure and main home routines.

I would do the weekend. Can you look for maybe a group or class or something to do, to do when they’re away on the weekends?? A hobby. My hobby is free, it’s salsa/bachata dancing lol there’s free classes on a Friday held at a club, I’ve been going for 2yrs. (The dresses and heels slowly add up though lol) Photography club, walking/hiking group, outdoors yoga or Pilates are usually free. Doing my nails is also free but I do need to order supplies to do it. Maybe painting, paint by numbers, art? Lots of things you can do free just gotta find it. Surfing is free, apart from the wetsuit and the board which can be hired. Cycling is free too besides hiring the bike. Zumba and Pilates classes here are $13 per class doing that once or twice a week won’t break the bank. I also meet people at hobby and make friends.

Whislt im a firm advocate for it takes a village to raise the baby what about the memorys you and your kids are missing? Maybe 2 days to give you a break

First thing, do you trust them all with your kids? Can the grandparents come to your house and spend time with them there?
I never left my kids at their grandparent's house alone but they come to our house, spend time with them to allow us to rest or do something in the house. My kids are 4yo and 5mo, still not going anywhere without me or their dad.
That said, if you are comfortable with the idea to lesve them with their grandparents, maybe few days or few hours for starter and see how you feel about it
Take the time tontrlax or do something you can't do when they are at home, like working out or do your nail etc...

I don't get it. Why does he takes the kids out instead of doing his part of the chores, the cooking,... So you can have quality time with your own baby?
To me, that's not ok for your kids to bond more with your mil than their own mom.

Maybe every once and awhile but yall need to come together and be your own family not him playing house with his mom and you being a child birthing vessel...you're the mom now this is your tribe grandmother had her turn already

You need to prioritize your family. He should be home helping and honestly just being around you and the babies. Mine had that issue when we moved near his family and I set boundaries like we are not gonna be at their house every weekend, we need to grow our family. I do utilize them for help, and I’m grateful for that, and once in a while he takes them to his families home and I just stay back to have myself time but it isn’t every day. Personally I don’t think it’s okay to be an every day thing, he needs to spend time with you and your little family. Once you build a family, your other family shouldn’t come before.

Tell him how you feel and try to find a way that might actually make you feel better. He may sense that you need a break and this is the only idea he has. Stop making up reasons to keep LO home and just tell him how you're feeling and discuss ways he may be able to help you. Sounds like you also really need a date night to reconnect too

If you are not comfortable then just let him take the kids few days a week. Other days he should spend time with you and kids. I know it can be stressful and not get much time together and frustration can cause fights too but we have to work it out. That way you all can get time together as a family.

Everyone’s given great advice , speak up about how you feel and think about what you want. How will your needs play out as a couple and how your days look as a family.
Also your baby is only 2 months old and spends that much time away from you. I can’t imagine you are actually happy about that. Your family time is more important than the children spending time with grandparents as they live close so they can see them as often as you choose

Not every day...

How about 2 days home with you, 2 days where your whole fam (including you) goes there and 3 days where you're home alone.

You can rest, relax, do housework alone.

Just find your balance ❤️

You don't need an excuse, just say "I need breaks but I miss the kids if I NEVER see them"

I personally wouldn’t be happy with that everyday. At what point do you get time as an actual family? Twice a week without you is more than enough (especially at 2m old!)

What do you want from him? - then tell him that’s actually what you would find helpful! I’d personally let the grandparents take my boy for some alone time lol

I think I understand - you want a break sometimes from being the primary carer opposed to being away from them. Is that right? I think to compromise, let your husband take them to their grandparents house a few times a week but on some days, schedule an activity together so he’s leading on carer duties and you can be around but more relaxed. Will help you feel more connected as a family and ease any guilt you feel. I will say it sounds like you need some fun for yourself - spa, coffee, walk and listen to a podcast, museum, cinema (even alone), socialise with friends or at a group event. I think that will bring more feelings of happiness xxx