should i stay?
hey everyone i have an almost one year old little boy will be one in july my partner and i split almost two months ago said “he just wanted to be friends to rebuild our relationship because he doesn’t know what he wants and doesn’t know if he ever wants to get married” we have been living together and he has recently gone through my thangs in my room and has lied to me about thangs i dont see it getting better just worse to be honest. (he is not the bio father and has no rights to my son) but if i leave he threatens that he’ll go for full custody of my son so there’s a part of me that’s scared to leave but i want commitment and they way i see it is if he won’t commit to me then he won’t commit to my son. but at the same time he’s a good dad to my son and has been there since day one of my pregnancie and cut the umbilical cord when i gave birth i love this man but i don’t know if i could stay in a relationship where it’s back and forth?
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Sounds very toxic on his part , and if he's not the child's bio dad I wouldn't worry about the full custody thing , do what's right for you and your son x
Toxic. Get out
Hope you’re okay🤍 If your partner wanted to be ‘friends’ because he doesn’t know if he could see a future with you. Instant 🚩 even if he was bio dad. You deserve so much better! I also advise to do it sooner than later, your son will not remember him now and it could effect him if this was to happen again in the future (which I can see it to be likely). Don’t wait for someone who’s not worth it when there’s someone out there for you. The custody part he has no chance, he can threaten all he likes he’s not YOUR child’s father x
Does he know he’s not the kids dad? Also if he was a good dad to your kid he’d be considering his perspective in all of this just because he’s a baby doesn’t mean he’s not impacted by toxicity
He can’t get custody of your baby.
This is fucked I’d get away asap. Assuming you’re a fit mother no court is going to side with this man
Leave immediately, he’s wasting you and your child’s time. Abusing the lil power he does have over you and you don’t need that.
Classic narcissist.
Will show you love and care and make you so much love that part of them that you feel you can't do without them.
But then treat you so bad you want to leave. Yet, they won't want to give you full control to leave as they will want to still have some form of control to keep you holding on.
Then they use anything they can to threaten you and force you not to leave out of fear. Most times, what they are threatening with doesn't hold water.
He obviously has got nothing with your child.
If you take your time and read about narcissists, you may have a clearer picture of what's going on. Especially if you are able to relate with most of the things you see as all their behaviours are all alike. Regardless of sex, education, status and all.
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