Anyone else fed up of seeing gender disappointment aimed at boys?

That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. That poor baby ☹️

My son is the light of my life. Whilst I would love a daughter to dress in frilly dresses and stuff, it’s nothing compared to the love I feel for my boy

That's really sad..
Unfortunately, I come from a culture where it's the opposite! A lot of people are saddened when they hear it's a girl they're having. For this reason, I would have loved a girl to change these shitty stereotypes.
But I was blessed with a boy, and he's my absolute world. 🤍

I completely get the concept of gender disappointment and I know with our second if we don’t have a girl I’ll be disappointed cause I’d love one of each but I’ll never ever say I’ll not love my baby because of their gender 🙁
I do tend to see it more toward boys though, I do agree!
I’d not change my little boy for the world and even though we didn’t care if we had a boy or a girl, I was so excited when I found out what we were having (I would have for girl as well cause I really didn’t care) 😂

Beyond crazy. I wanted a girl but I cannot relate. I love my son more than I ever thought possible

It is super sad but I do understand to some aspect, I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks and from the very start I just felt it in my body that I was going to have a son.
I wasn’t disappointed with the gender of my baby at all, but I remember feeling this irrational fear of being a boy mum.
I don’t know why but I just kept telling myself “I hope I’m wrong, I hope it’s not a boy, I don’t know what to do with a boy, I won’t be good enough to raise him”

It was crazy. I got in my head so much about it. I can’t imagine my life without him now, he is literally the light of my life!
I think I’d cry if I had a daughter to be honest , I definitely feel like he is what I never knew I needed.

So whilst I wasn’t disappointed with his gender, I was terrified at the start and can understand a little, I suppose as well if people really want one of each gender. Either way, I think a happy healthy baby is the best you could ever ask for!

I only wanted boys 🫣

Aren't you just shaming a pregnant woman? 🙄 that woman has come on here for support and then there is you?

I am so happy that I have a baby boy. I knew he was gonna be a boy even before the gender was told to me by my OB.

no not at all I think it’s a shame for that child tbh

Yes, it's a shame. But it's also not your place to put this post up to shame that vulnerable woman.

it’s not to shame anyone at all, it is what it is that I’m fed up of seeing gender disappointment posts and that’s it

if someone doesn't want people to have opinions about something they say then they shouldn't post it on social media. Not everything needs to be broadcast if it's "vulnerable"

It's hard, because I really do understand. I helped raise my two nieces from newborns, and then I had my first baby (a girl). When I was pregnant with my second and found out he was a boy, I was in shock. I had never looked after a boy before, especially when it came to things like cleaning, so I felt stressed as it was all unknown . Plus, from what I’d seen when I had my daughter, the boys around her all seemed so wild compared to my soft, calm girl. Girls felt like my safe space. But once he was born, all those worries disappeared and my love for him is tenfold.

I really don't get it at all, I have 2 boys (14 months apart) and so many people said to me oh I bet you wish you'd had a girl, or ask will we try again for a girl?! I find it so strange, I feel very blessed to have 2 healthy babies! 🤷🏻

Just want to add that my baby’s two cousins are boys so I’m also a bit relieved. 1) now I can get their hand me downs and 2) they’ll all hang out together.

It’s crazy how it used to be that way with girls and now it’s boys? How the tables have turned…. I couldn’t imagine not loving whoever I got. And I absolutely love my baby boy to death! But I would have been thrilled with either

Everyone’s feelings are valid and gender disappointment is real. I wasn’t sure I would love a little boy because I wanted a girl, but once they are here they are so very loved.

Yes bc wdym you can’t love your baby if it’s not the gender you wanted, I wanted a baby girl so bad but before I even went to that appointment as long as my baby was healthy I didn’t care, I love my boy so much I can’t imagine feeling different just bc he wasn’t a girl

right and everyone’s like I completely understand sending hugs but if anyone said that about a girl all hell breaks loose. You can’t even say ur wishing for a boy without the weird comments

actually it is her place to post her opinion. She said what she said and we agree.

Gender disappointment isn’t the problem, thinking u can’t love a child because of the gender is.

That's really sad 😢 I don't know how anyone can not love their baby whatever the gender. Xx

I truly don’t understand how anyone can be saying that they didn’t/dont think they would love their baby just because it’s a boy???

I wish they’d just call that what it is. Narcissism.

I feel you OP, don't know the post you are referring to but, even before I had a boy, I would hear my female friends talk about wanting girls and I never really understood - I have been of the camp that happy, healthy is all that matters to me. It concerns me because I feel like it's that mentality that would contribute to boys not getting the same amount of love/attention they deserve and growing up to be men with issues. Should we not be equally invested in raising good men and loving on them as boys as we would a baby girl?

there are moms in this group who felt that very way. Women’s feelings are valid and clearly the person was searching for support due to gender disappointment. Your comment is pretty cruel labeling moms with gender disappointment as being narcissistic.

I understand people can be disappointed with gender and that’s ok.
But saying you won’t love your baby?
It’s a 50/50 shot on what gender you’re going to get. If you’re not going to be happy overall and love that baby either way it goes, don’t have a baby.

it’s really setting up other women for failure when we dictate what they should feel. All feelings are valid. Gender disappointment is real and not uncommon. Hormones and a mother’s love take over after birth. If a mother is feeling this way she deserves support and reassurance, not judgement.

Judging other moms for looking for support isn’t really fair. We are all here looking for someone to listen and validate our feelings.

I’m wondering if you were perfectly rational when hormones were flooding your body with pregnancy? These women deserve grace and support. Not judgement and being told they shouldn’t be having a baby at all. These comments and the post are so cruel for anyone currently going through gender disappointment.

and people should open their eyes be damn grateful that they can have any gender of baby in the first place when others simply can’t or have experienced multiple loses and would give anything to just carry to term.
So I’ll judge the hell I want if that’s what you want to call it

I see, I’m sorry you experienced loss. I went through three rounds of ivf and multiple transfers myself. Your feelings of loss and being agitated with other moms for not being grateful are valid. However, attacking others for not being grateful isn’t fair or supportive to their feelings and situation.

this isn’t about myself I never said it was. I’ve had the same views before my loss and it won’t change. I honestly understand the disappointment I said that as well already, but if you genuinely think you aren’t going to love your child because of its gender when it’s 50/50 shot then no I don’t think you should have a child until you are past that mind frame and that is MY opinion. And i’m not attacking anybody. I will never support someone who would say they don’t love their kid because it’s a boy/girl. People need to be grateful and that’s the end of it. My opinion doesn’t have to be yours and that’s fine I’m not telling anyone it has to be.

Totally agree!!!!!

Sorry Laura is right!!!! be frigging grateful you have children to love, period!!! don’t blame it on the hormones either because the people that are saying that they would not love a boy, because they wanted a girl, I totally see that as being mentally unstable.

I don’t see those posts, but I would have a lot to say trust me!!!!

careful she might block you too🤣🤣🤣

yes, and by being hateful you are violating the peanut terms of being on this app. 😔It’s sad that some of you ladies love to be so nasty to others. I’m going to pray for you both.

it’s not cruel to disagree.

they aren’t disagreeing. They are attacking someone for being honest about their emotions. This is supposed to be a safe place for women to be open.

Hold on. I’m responding to what you said about my comment directly. I’m not being cruel by having a point of view. And nobody in this post is being attacked.

idrc u gotta judge sometimes. Bring back shame. Shame on anyone who can’t love a child cus of their gender…..shame on anyone who can harm a child. Like I said gender disappointment is normal not loving ur child because of it isn’t. Stop tryna be fake woke, this is what’s wrong with society.