Need help on this. My daughter plays with a boy in the street and he has ADHD. Estimated 60% of the time he is great and my daughter loves playing with him but today and on another few occasions he has been violent or extremely rude to other kids. Today for example he called my daughter a baby and a poor girl. He spilt a drink today that was my daughter's and he had a complete meltdown and tried to turn it around on my daughter and say it was her fault. He didn't apologise for spilling the drink. He then ripped up my daughter's picture. He also had to go and get changed because they got caught in the rain playing he came back and demanded a drink of juice. No please no thank you. I'm quite friendly with his mum but don't know if I should let him in the back garden anymore. Any advice welcome
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Hi, I’m a parent of a child with ADHD, and I really get how hard it can be — especially around emotional regulation and social skills. In meltdown moments, kids with ADHD often go into fight-or-flight mode, which makes it really hard for them to admit fault or respond calmly.
That said, your daughter’s wellbeing matters just as much. It’s okay to set boundaries if things are getting too much — maybe keep play supervised or take a break for now. A gentle chat with his mum might help too; she may be working with him on these challenges and not realize what’s happening.
You’re handling this with a lot of care, and it’s okay to balance empathy with protecting your child.
thanks so much for the reply and great advice xx