I need some advice please 🙏

My daughter just turned 2, and my baby boy just turned 4 months old.

It's been a struggle. I had to quit pumping. My 2 year old made it nearly impossible. I seldom have time to pump between the two of them. She'd scream and throw toys at me. She'd slam cabinets to get my attention. Now im just breastfeeding and giving formula.

That was just a back story of what I have been struggling with.

Today, I lost my ever loving mind. My toddler has been screaming at the top of her lungs, she refuses to eat, and she does things she knows she's not supposed to do (jump on and off the couch). Between the TV, her screaming, and then baby crying and spitting up after she kicked him in the head, I yelled at her. I really laid into her. I feel like such a piece of shit. I have no help or adult interaction, my husband works 14-hour days, my friends are MIA, and my family is never available. I'm drowning. I feel so alone and numb.
I feel like I need parenting classes for 2 under 2. Please offer me some advice because I really need it.

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just going to something similar, the only difference is that I have an older boy (5yo) and they fight with my 2 yo all the time… just hoping and praying to be wise and patient in this stage , cuz, it ain’t easy …
Sending hope and prayers

I also have 2 under 2. It's really really hard, but we gotta do what we gotta do. Seems like your toddler demands attention. If possible, spend some time with her and not have the baby around. When the baby sleeps, be in the other room with your toddler and engage in an activity with her. This might give her reassurance that Mama is there for her and with her. Nobody can replace me (the toddler). I am special.

It's hard. Give yourself some grace. Apologize. Work on making it better for both of you. Remember that you're an adult and you just had that outburst - so you can just imagine how she's having bad moments being little and having a new sibling and all of these changes happening while you have no impulse control. You're both in a hard spot and there will be bad moments but it all depends on how you repair.

I know you're short on help but make a big deal of spending time with just her. When your 4 month old is napping, talk about how you will spend special time together. When your 2 year old needs some attention, make a show of telling baby he needs to wait because you're helping his sister. It will help her be more patient in return. Look up simple activities you can set up to keep her busy because being busy will keep her from tantruming. Chaoswithcara on IG is a good account for ideas but there are so many others.

It will get better. Hang in there ❤️

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Am I wrong for getting upset?

Long story short. My cousin made a group chat for bridesmaids and groomsman to plan out bachelorette party.
I sent one text about finding a sitter and my cousin texts me to stop saying stuff like that cause no one gives a shit? As if no one else is gonna mention their personal lives during planning a trip of 10 people?
I. Put the screenshots. I got so hurt I told her just count me out if the mention of my kid offends everyone.

Having a bit of a sad day

I don’t know if I want advice or just to get it out a bit.
I had a bit of a rubbish Mother’s Day, and then today had a falling out with my mum.
Very long story short, me and my partner turn 30 this year and were thinking of taking a short trip (2-3 days max) just the two of us to celebrate. Our son will be 2 by then.
We had discussed leaving our son with our parents and them sort of splitting having him (eg. My mum has him one night and my boyfriend’s mum has him the other two nights, or whatever we collectively decide on). They are both happy to do this.

Yesterday my MIL was pushing my son’s pram and got distracted and pushed it off the pavement into the road, a car missed the pram by about 5 seconds. This upset me a lot.

Me and my partner discussed this later on and I said it worries me leaving our son with her in case she does something like that. We also discussed the fact that my mum pays very little attention to our son when she’s with him and is absolutely glued to her phone (looking at social media etc) so we might just take him on holiday with us.

Then this morning I had a chat with my mum and told her we would probably just take our son away with us. She asked why and I mentioned the pram thing with my MIL so she said she would just have him- so I thought it was time to mention that when she’s with him she is glued to her phone and gets distracted and that it just worries me a bit. (For reference she’s been watching him before and because she’s been on her phone he’s managed to get half way up her stairs.)
She absolutely lost it at me. Called me rude etc.

I try so hard not to upset anyone and I’m just so so fed up now. I just wish it was simple and we could trust them to take care of him but they are both away with the fairies.

I want to talk to my mum but i don’t know how to approach it now. Just feel like i need a big cry.

Water

My LO is 10 months old and I try and offer him water with meals but he will only take a couple of sips. I’ve tried adding freshly made apple juice to sweeten it a bit, in case this would entice him, but he still refused. I think if it’s not milk, he doesn’t want it, or it’s odd to him.

Any tips?

Married couples…who handles car maintenance in your household?

Oil changes, tune ups, tires, car washing/vacuuming, etc

Ughhh

I am so overwhelmed!! My baby isn’t sleeping and I’ve got a raging headache and all this legal stuff is making me feel irritated and I just want to cry.
I absolutely hate the idea of letting him just cry while I take 5 seconds

I really hate to come out here and tell my business about what’s going on with my life in my kids, but I had no choice

I just came back from a parent teachers conference meeting and they telling me that my second daughter, who just turned eight about a week ago that she barely know how to read and she has speech problems… I already feel like shit because it’s not that I’m doing my job. It’s because I worked a lot, and and every time, me and my first oldest daughter, trying to teach you how to read, she gets insecure and thinking that we making fun of her, but we’re not!! I felt like a shitty mother I don’t know what to do.