Why do men stop wearing their wedding bands?

So we got married 24th October last year, he wore his band daily to start with unless showering, busy with out horses ect but recently he's stopped wearing it even when we are out shopping, we are away on holiday over next few days and I plan to ask him outright why but I'd like to know if anyone else has gone threw this and why they stopped wearing it. I feel hurt like I'm the only one who cares about our marriage. To me, it should never be taken off unless it doesn't fit properly, then you might take it off for bed if it causes problems. I don't know if I should be worried or not.

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To be fair I don’t wear my wedding ring. I got out of the habit when I had my son as it didn’t fit and now it just feels uncomfortable. My oh wedding ring isn’t the original one anyway as I think it got knocked off the table by the cat.

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So my husbands a master mechanic. From day 1 I knew he would NEVER wear his ring. We got one for the ceremony and to be used to occasions but he would’ve ruinneeeddd it if worn it daily. Then, He can never remember to put it on daily even after work for just a few hours. Which like, I get is pointless anyway. I bought him a pack of silicone rings, he loves them, wears them till they break and just pops on a new one. Going on 3 years, he wears a ring everyday. Sure not his wedding ring itself, but there’s something there to stand in for the significance

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I'd not be happy if my partner didn't wear his once we are married, I believe it's bad to remove such. Maybe just have a chat with him about it. As others have said could be an issue with comfort, doesn't want to ruin it, doesn't fit etc

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Mine takes his off for work and the gym and will sometimes forget to put it on for a few days. I couldnt wear mine when I was pregnant and now just wear the wedding band if I remember to put it on. Maybe hes just not used to wearing it, it took a while for me to remember to put mine on when I took it off because I dont wear rings aside from my wedding ring. Even now I dont always remember. To me taking it off and leaving it off intentionally is one thing, and forgetting to put it back on is a completely different thing, especially early on when its not something thats normally there. Don't immediately assume the worst, remember the rings arent the marriage. My SIL and BIL dont even wear theirs because they dont like rings. Don't be afraid to bring it up if it bothers you, but I wouldnt immediately go into it accusatory

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My husband never takes his off, but I never wear mine. For some reason I find it super uncomfortable. I found myself absentmindedly taking it off and putting it down in super random places. Could it be that he is just not a jewelry person?

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I know it’s not the same but I don’t always wear my engagement ring and my partner has already told me that he won’t be wearing a wedding band as he works where can it can get contaminated and if that was to happen he’d have to get rid of it x

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My husband always wear his wedding band, and I do when I remember. We have previously had a conversation about it, but he isn’t too bothered. My point, if it bothers you speak to him about it, so everyone is on the same page.

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My husband nor myself wear our wedding rings unless we’re going to a special occasion, like a holiday dinner with his family or coworkers. We’re both faithful, just don’t like to wear them. He is a blue collar worker & part of me wouldn’t want him to wear it anyway because it might fall off & get lost at work. I barely ever go anywhere & never without him, so I don’t feel I have much of a reason to wear it. I’m sure he still cares about the marriage. Him not wearing the ring doesn’t reflect his feelings, I don’t think.

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For my husband, who is a mechanic, he told me that his finger got caught on something at his job and nearly lost his finger due to his wedding band being on his finger and he asked me if I minded if he got some of those silicone wedding bands to wear instead. Ofc I said that was completely fine with me. I'd much rather him have a finger to wear his wedding band on than no finger at all. But for some men that dont typically wear any kind of jewelry on a regular basis it's just hard to get used to the band being on their finger and is kind of annoying for them. I'd suggest the silicone rings and tell him that the silicone would be acceptable (if in fact it is for u) and just ask him to wear the actual real band when u go out. If he is the type to not like jewelry then suggest maybe a necklace with his band on it or even a tattoo of a ring on his finger?

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