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Anyone else struggling to bond with their 3 year old? OH MY DAYS. Its fricking hard. He has me in tears most days. Constantly challenging me. Hitting me. Screaming. Refusing. Hitting his younger baby brother. Killing insects.. after me explaining its not nice. He pushed his friend off a climbing thing other day. For no reason. Breaks all his toys cause he finds it funny. Throws his food in the bin moment looking at it cause he refuses to eat it. Even tjough he likes it normally.

Pls tell me this is a horrible phase and it will pass or does it seem he genuinely has problems and I need to consult someone about it?

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I have a 3 year old little boy and ALL my mum friends with boys who are the same age are going through really awful times at the moment! ITS SUCH A HARD STAGE ISNT IT!

Three year old boys are hard!! We are all saying our boys are energetic, boisterous, don’t listen, accident prone, can have aggressive and rude behaviours especially when not wanting to share toys or being told what to do! No advice other than you are not alone so just hang in there! We are currently trying to reduce screen time and sugar and be a lot firmer around naughty behaviour introducing a lot more time out or taking things away until he’s calmed down. Still a lovely little boy but I think they are constantly testing boundaries at this age and it’s exhausting and testing. I have a newborn too! 😅

I've got a 8 month old and a verrrrryy clingy 8 month old. Think it doesnt help im not catching a break whatsoever too. So im already like.. here we go!!! 😂

Its very challenging indeed. I often consider am I even cut out on doing this because motherhood is so damn fricking hard

Boys get testosterone surges at 3,6,9 years old and around 15. So one reason they turn into absolute little terrors! We’ve found doing play fighting with Daddy or a father figure helps a lot and just having a space they ran run around, bash things, bang things and let it out.

But totally get you! It’s a relief when he goes to bed atm 🙈

Mines the exact same right now it’s awful ! I thought it was just me!!! 😩

I have a 3 year old boy and I actually dread the accident reports at nursery because he can lash out a lot at other children but nursery say he's so good
he's so argumentative everything is an issue no matter what he threw a rock at my car I explained we don't do this he continued and laughed about until I chopped the end off his dummy which he has at night time which he also will not part with hes normally really good eating and started throwing it all on the floor and shouting you eat it sometimes feels like if I speak calm he doesn't listen until I shout then he gets upset then I feel bad it's a constant circle but I'm hoping it's a phase and persistence will help 😂

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