Gaslit. Full stop? Or see if apologizes?
We've had our kids together now full time about a week. Every morning and night I have fed and kids (even when he's here) his son (almost 2) threw up 3 times last night, I cleaned and washed everything. No complaints. When I asked if he could make sure kids were fed more or like be the one to do breakfast his response, "I knew this would happen, I dont complain when I take care of your kids" to which I responded, "If you think that was complaining then ignore what I just said. It's a big adjustment and a lot to take on in the first week, I hoped you would empathize." He's never bought groceries, and even used my toothpaste so he didn't have that when he moved in. I have provided clothes and all diapers. Even had to give him gas money, as he's using my car and has yet to pay for his portion of the car insurance with him added. Never a complaint. They are children, they need care. But my request for more help with feeding them was met with HUGE hostility. Trying to say it was complaining is straight gaslighting. We are BOTH parents who decided to join our families. FEEDING them should not be solely my job EVERY MORNING. Kids ages: 4, 3, 2 months from 2 and 9 months. His kids will scream and he will not get up to feed them. How do I approach this now? My thoughts, I wanted help feeding them so I could get out of mom mode and actually be intimate with him. Now. Okay, I dont play. You gaslit me. Im mom mode, March lease is up we're done. But the kids 100% I'll treat as my own. Im done fucking around even slightly with disrespect like that. Am I being too harsh?
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Fuck no you’re not being too harsh. Good on you for standing up for yourself like you should be!
absolutely not. you’re doing exactly what you should do. you’re being an adult and you’re communicating how you feel and about the things that you need. he is not being mature in the situation at all but everything should NOT fall on you. i know it’s hard because if you don’t do these things then who will but if he doesn’t want to contribute in any aspect then it just feels like ‘what’s the point?’ i’m not judging at all! just wish i could give you a hug. you are carrying so much and it’s not fair to carry that weight alone
I just can't believe that came out of his mouth. I don't do three strikes. I do one. Before we were "official" I said we were co-parenting. He's in for a rude awakening. Cause I dont complain, or even get mad. I demand a partner. He's shown he's not that with that comment today.
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