Mother in law keeps taking my baby out of my arms.
My mother in law in staying with us for 4 months. I have a 2 year old and 6 month old.
My mother in law keeps taking my baby off me. Today we went to church my baby woke up my mother in law said bring the baby. So I said no it's okay I'm holding her now. She said bring her again so I just ignored that. 10 minutes later she called my name and abruptly said give me the baby so I just have the baby to her. I'm holding back so much, I feel like I am going to snap and be disrespectful. Every morning when the baby wakes up my mother in law comes and takes her from my arms, so I immediately take her back and we just go back and forth. My partner gets angry if I say anything to him about it as apparently it's a Nigerian thing and I'm being crazy.
Today I was holding my 2 year old hand to cross the road, my mother in law snatched my daughters hand out of my hand. I feel like anything I want to do with my children she is stopping it.
I seriously don't know what to do because I wouldn't allow my own mother to do this or treat me the way my mother in law is. I don't understand why because I'm married to her son she gets to treat me less of a person. But my mum is so nice to my husband and respects boundaries. Iv tried to be form with her but she just gets nasty and I don't want to be rude or disrespectful but my partner won't talk to her about this either. My mother in law even takes my child from my family and they just briefly holds her, the only person she doesn't take her from is my husband
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Your just going to have to stop giving in. If you don’t want to hand over your baby in the moment don’t do it. Explain to her that you’re the baby’s mom and she has to respect you.
I’m Nigerian and it’s definitely not a Nigerian thing. It’s tradition for mothers to come and help with the newborn but you can say what you’re not comfortable with. She probably thinks she’s helping you by taking the baby off you so you can rest. I think you should respectfully and firmly tell her no you want to hold and bond with your baby and you’ll ask for help when you need it.
That’s very odd. No one should be taking your baby from you forcefully. Your husband should definitely intervene and explain to her
This is where your husband needs to step in and lay down the law. Mine has had to do that a lot with my MIL.
Kick her in the knees when she approaches 🫠 I wouldn’t be able to hold my tongue
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