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North Carolina

Just need a little advice

Am I wrong for not really wanting to be bothered with my husbands family and holding a grudge against them for choosing not to come to my husbands graduation? My husband graduated from the army and only his brother and his father who he hasn’t seen since he was 2 showed up. His mom wouldn’t come if she couldn’t bring her new wife and new son, even tho I offered to help her by paying for rental to drive down since they couldn’t afford the plane tickets but went on a vacation the month after to see the wife’s family and they both have way better jobs then me and my husband. I also suggested she drive down with his brother who was also driving to which she made excuses for saying her new child wouldn’t wanna be in the car that long and offered to pay for his grandparents to come free of charge and then found out they didnt come cause the planned a trip to drive to Florida the week of his graduation from the ARMY to see family. It was a longer drive there, then to my husbands graduation! They never met our daughter and kept making promises to come meet her but want me and my husband to go out our way to bring her to them when literally my whole family has met my daughter on their expense!!! I feel like they just buy his love and honestly I think it’s disgusting behavior and I don’t care for them to be in our lives anymore and I don’t feel like we should have to go out our way to see them tbh! They stay on vacation and have never once come to see my husband! My husband had surgery before we dated and not one of them came up and he had to drive himself home after his surgery and no one came to check on him at all. They’re not mean people and have been welcoming to me but I feel like they don’t care about my husband the way a family should and just buy him stuff so he doesn’t see that they never show up for him and I think he’s just used to it by now but it makes me so angry! I was already salty no one came to meet our child but I was even more upset when they didn’t make time for his graduation and knew the date and where it was gonna be for months and the entire time he was there he did nothing but write about how he hopes his family is proud of him and how he can’t wait till his family watches him graduate and how much he wanted his mom to be there and I explained that to his mother and she put her new family over him and chose not to go same with his grandparents! He wants to ask them to buy our baby and we’re currently expecting twins, car seats but honestly I don’t wanna ask them for anything! Cause I don’t know them and neither do our children and I don’t need anyone to buy my love and respect. I’d rather go back to work so we can buy what we need instead! And I don’t know if I’m wrong for that or sound crazy for it but I don’t even wanna ask my family either! I feel like it’s not anyone responsibility to help us cause no one else was in that bed but us!