Naps and nursery

My baby is nearly 11 months and will be going to nursery in September.
We’ve always have had difficulty with naps, she always needs to have them either in the car or in her pram. I’ve only ever successfully got her to sleep in her cot a handful of times and I have so much shame around it. Despite the fact she naps in the car and the pram has actually been great while on maternity leave because it’s sorta forced me to get out and it works great when I’m trying to get around as she’ll happily nap whilst we’re out so I’m not stuck to the house so it’s had it’s pros and I guess I’ve been guilty at taking advantage of this.

However with nursery on the horizon I’m feeling sick that I’ve set her up for the biggest shock. I’m so nervous about it.

Anyone else ever been in the same boat or similar? If so how did it go when your baby went to nursery? Is there anything I could be doing now to help soften the blow?

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My daughter contact napped for all naps at home or had them in the car etc and she was absolutely fine when she went to nursery (11.5 months) cos they don't have a sleep association there so they just create a new one.

I wouldn't change anything personally. We didn't.

Just expect that naps at nursery may be a bit shorter.

that’s interesting I was wondering if she’d maybe do something like that. A friend of mine has mentioned something similar that at nursery they all form new ways of being. I bet you were relieved?

Yeah definitely. She carried on contact napping at home with me until she was 2.

My son was a contact napper. At nursery also at one. He napped fine on the mattress with other little ones on his side with him bum being tapped!
They will figure it out :)
When it's not mum they can be so different xxx

The first day or two she might not sleep or sleep well there. Then she'll fall into their routine and will nap fine and you'll be annoyed at how well she sleeps there 😂

I have to rock my lb to sleep for his naps, at nursery he just lays done and chats himself to sleep 🤣

I completely with Natalie, it is all about sleep associations. It's just about introducing some new sleep associations at home to stop all her nasbokly being in the car or pram. I am a sleep consultant and would love to help you if you would like xd

My son started nursery at nearly 7 months old and is now nearly 1. He was a contact napper and co sleeper when he started.

What he does is there's a pram at the nursery he goes in for his naps.

this 😭😭😭

Nursery's have magic ways! Don't worry about it. My little one is the same x

Mine needed rocking to sleep by me till well over 2 years old. Has been in nursery since 6 months and was not rocked once! They pat, and white noise, and shusshhh - and they get all those kids asleep at once!

Aww thanks everyone this makes me feel loads better and a bit more optimistic for her starting nursery 🙌

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