How to tell your friend you're pregnant
I'm about 13 weeks pregnant and will tell my parents soon. I was gonna tell a few friends after that. I need advice on how to tell my best friend. She has always been that type of person to say she never wants kids blablabla. This years she s had 3 miscarriages. For the first one, she wasn't upset and was kinda relieved. For the 2nd and 3rd one, she was sending me prams and clothes she was gonna buy. She even bought some clothes. She hasn't really talked about it since the last time it happened. Obviously, I was very early pregnant when it happened and didn't want to trigger further. I feel awful for not telling her, but I also love her so much, and I care about her feelings.
How should I tell her? We live in different countries, so I would text or voice message her either way( neither of us like to speak on the phone). I know she'll be really excited for us as she's my childhood best friend and we talk every single day. I just worry that I will upset and trigger her.
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Having had miscarriages I would say text/voice message is a good call. It will give her time to process it, cry and then reply to you with congratulations. She's happy for you and your best friend so will definitely want to know but will probably just be sad at the same time for her lack of pregnancy/child.
Perhaps telling her before you tell any other friends because she's your best mate is a good idea. She will know eventually, even though it's painful for her, she will also be happy for you if she's a good mate x
I had a similar thing with a good friend who had been struggling to conceive and I messaged to tell her acknowledging it might be hard news for her to hear. She was thrilled for us anyway (and happily is now a Mum herself 😀)
Having experienced multiple losses and feeling left behind and sad whilst simultaneously happy when others have announced their pregnancies, I’d say the text route is definitely the best way to go rather than to call. It gives your friend time to read the message in her own time and process before responding rather than putting her on the spot with a voice or video call. I’m sure she will be over the moon for you as your best friend but best to give her the time she needs. I’d say that you know the news may be hard for her and acknowledge that and let her respond in her own time.
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