I’m having a surgical abortion
Hi.
I’m having a surgical abortion. Not because I don’t want a baby, I do. Not because I’m financially unable, I am. Not because I’m a bad mother, I am. Not because it’s too much, it’s not. Not because I’m too young, I’m grown (over 30)
I’m having an abortion because the father of this baby, my now ex, has turned out to be the meanest, nastiest, most manipulative, bullying, narcissistic, hateful, hate-fuelled man I’ve EVER known. He bully’s me daily, texts me non-stop, talks down to me, calls me ‘stupid’ ‘retarded’ ‘selfish’ ‘dumb’ ‘spoilt’ and makes sure he has access to me daily JUST to berate me.
He says he wants to get back together, he says he wants his family - yesterday I said ‘if you can go 2 weeks without insulting me then we can get back together’, 2 hours later he was back to berating me. The trigger? Nothing much. I’m not perfect but nothing a do or say sets him off, he just like to beat me down it seems. I’m too happy for him, I’m too carefree, I’m too excited. And the kicker? I have never insulted him in all our relationship, I’m a strong believer that once you start to disrespect your partner you will never stop.
The final blow? He said ‘I have never regretted getting someone pregnant. Only you.’
So, I am getting a surgical abortion. Because I want this to stop and I want him to leave me alone.
I am crying but I will be ok.
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Im sorry this is a difficult situation
I’m so sorry you’re going through this, if you need someone to talk to or vent to you can always message me.
Please take care of yourself and give yourself some grace over this time x
I think you’re so brave and very strong and you’re doing the best thing that’s right for you. I hope it gets better for you and you heal from this. And definitely if you haven’t already block this man on everything and get a restraining order on him so he can’t go near you ❤️
I’m proud of you. He absolutely does not deserve another child in existence. Hopefully you have some supports around you outside of him 🫶🏼🫂
Aweeee my love I know this was not an easy decision and I’m so sorry that you are being treated so horribly by the ex , but you are so strong for making this decision for yourself because you would’ve have to dealt with this man for the next 18 years … I don’t think you should go back to him because he doesn’t deserve you and I don’t think he would change … I’m very proud of. You and you are so brave for doing what you are doing ❤️
Sorry to hear you’re going through this. You need to do the right thing by yourself, if that’s having an abortion, it’s that, if it’s having the baby and raising them alone, it’s that, it cannot be easy to go through this and I really hope you have a support network you can rely on. You don’t deserve to be treated that way
I’m sending you so much love. No one deserves to be in this situation, but I’m glad you’re making the hard decision if it’s the right decision for you.
Sending you so much love ❤️
Can you have the baby and not tell him? It’s not the baby’s fault the dad is bad?? It’s a life
girl go away, as if she isn’t going through enough without pro life weirdos trying to make her feel even worse go and focus your energy on the children in the care system
read the room Megan.
Now is not the time for your preaching.
I think it’s OK that we all shared our opinions! I didn’t tell you to go away for your opinion!
a post about someone getting an abortion and looking for support isn’t the place for your pro life opinion.
She said she wanted the baby ◡̈ are you okay? I’m sorry that my advice upset you so much.
she also said she wanted the guy to leave her alone because he’s a controlling bully.
I’m sorry that you’re ignoring the fact her mental health could completely deteriorate if she did have this baby so much.
I’ve been in a situation similar to this where I was told “I do not want a baby with you.” And my baby is the biggest blessing of my life ❤️ the hardest, but the best ❤️ I know you’re trying to help her, but I am too ◡̈ it’s a hard and bad situation and i feel for her
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