I've gotten to the point where I just want my little boy to stfu

I feel so bad saying this but I have to say it all he wants and all he repeats is gummies, lollipops, or TV

Either I'm completely failing as a mom because I'm so burnt out as a single mom that I don't know what the fuck to do anymore

And no matter what I try all he does is repeat those three words in many different ways in fact in a way now where he manipulates the situation and tries to butter me up and then he inserts gummies lollipops and TV again and again and again

I've had to walk away so many times because I can't take it anymore. I can't even breathe let alone read two words of one sentence of a fucking book that I want to read

He is surrounded by everything you could think of safe environments playground everything food variety of fruits vegetables and delicious food that's not even like great but like even chicken fingers or pasta or something. And none of it works

He surrounded by goodness and I'm afraid he doesn't even choose socializing or anything over these three things

I also give him as much attention as I can in quality time as I can but nothing is working with this fucking child

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Girl if I were you headphones. And provide with everything except tv gummies and lollipops and wait til he gets hungry enough to eat the healthier food and only books until he even forgets the word tv maybe I’m extreme but I’d even go so far as to remove tv altogether

1st I'm glad you know when to walk away. Many moms don't and it leads to bad things down the road.
2nd how old is he? If he's under 2 I would think he'd start communicating better soon. Just stick it out until he's about 28 months it should rapidly turn around then. If he's over 28 months and this is the only communication he manages is consider testing for early intervention.
3rd pay attention when trying new things how he interacts with it. it could be sensory issues texture etc ..or it could be taste. Keep a food diary for a little while then bring your concerns up with his pediatrician.

Oh ok good. There will hopefully be a shift soon. However if he remains hyper fixated on the 3 things over the next 3-6 months I would consider early intervention measures.

I can't really elaborate because I don't have enough information about your child. In my experience though hyper fixation was one of the first signs that my oldest son has autism. I only point those things out when I notice them because many parents aren't aware of what could be a sign

I think you should congratulate yourself because you have kept your child alive as a single mum! If I was a single mum, I would probably put my son on the TV about 10 times longer than I let him watch it now. Even then I would not be able to make it through the day without screaming and crying uncontrollably. Perhaps having an understanding of autism may help but also giving yourself a pat on the back for being an awesome mum may help too! With TV using a timer has been helpful for me. The timer is apparently divine, it's not mummy saying you need to stop, it's the timer ....

We have had issues with my daughter regulating herself with tv. One of the things we have done is get a tonie box, so she still has the option for downtime and listen but without the stimulation of the screen.
The other thing I read was that new films and series are much more addictive and stimulating for kiddos because of the bright colours. Maybe if you do put the tv on, you could try some of the older shows / films?

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

8 month old cry alllll the time?

I keep thinking I’m doing something wrong..

My baby has always been a crier, car seat, pram seat, nappy changes, outfit changes, nap times etc.. first 6 months we put it down to reflux, I had a lot of advice from HV/ GP as I was really struggling.

He’s improved with his reflux but I think now we are in a constant state of teething.. (he has 6 teeth now) or am I just making an excuse for his constant crying?

I can’t go on pram walks, I can’t go on drives, I have to constantly hold him/ entertain him for him to stop crying. I feel like there can’t be something up with him because the moment I hold him or entertain him he’s so happy and giggles/ babbles!

I’m just wondering if anyone is going through something similar?