Separation anxiety 😵‍💫

Please help, is anyone else going through the separation anxiety phase? I put my LO down and it’s immediately tears. During the day I stay in his sight luckily my house has an open floor plan so he settles just fine. But when is the bedtime routine it’s a nightmare. He won’t go down like he used to. He goes down great for his naps but won’t for the final put down. I usually put him down drowsy awake. He would roll over like and fall asleep. Now I set him down and it’s heart breaking. How are y’all dealing with this phase? I’m trying to stay consistent but this is a hurting my heart!

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Yes 1000% often being in sight isn’t enough. I occasionally have to just let her cry so I can get stuff done. I am baby wearing when possible & if not I give her toys. I let my girl fall asleep, wait 10 min, then put her down. If she wakes up I wait to see if she starts crying & then we start over lol. I’ve never been able to do drowsy but awake, so my experience is different. Not the best advice, but you’re certainly not alone! I haven’t been able to get much done, I keep telling myself I’ll miss this when it’s over lmaoooo

so true I certainly am going to miss this. I would love to baby wear but he’s 23 lbs and my back hurts what baby wearing do yall use? I have a mom cozy one and the long tie it one. (I’m forgetting what the heck it’s called)

I am going through the same thing. I recently gave my son a “stuffless” animal to cuddle at night. It’s like a stuffed animal hollowed out LOL and once he gets hold of it in his hand he’s totally fine.

girl I hear you! Are those wraps? I think more structured carriers have been really helpful for us, like with the padding and straps. I have one by boba and I just got one by tula that I’m excited to try out! They are an investment, but I find them more secure and they don’t hurt as much. Sometimes I see really good ones on Facebook marketplace! Also, the hip carriers could be the extra support you need! Like by tushbaby, but I believe momcozy has one too.

I will add though, I’m not the best with wraps, so that’s really just my personal preference.

can you link the one you use!! I’m interested in trying this out. 🤩

perfecttttt!

Ergo baby Omni 360 , game changer for 26 lbs baby. He falls asleep while baby wearing, then I wait about 15 min and put him down. Cosleepling has been the best solution in my case.

my hubby scares me for co sleeping he always is rolling on me! I would love to co sleeping but my LO always thinks it’s play time when I try

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Is it bad of me to think this or no?

My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

8 month old cry alllll the time?

I keep thinking I’m doing something wrong..

My baby has always been a crier, car seat, pram seat, nappy changes, outfit changes, nap times etc.. first 6 months we put it down to reflux, I had a lot of advice from HV/ GP as I was really struggling.

He’s improved with his reflux but I think now we are in a constant state of teething.. (he has 6 teeth now) or am I just making an excuse for his constant crying?

I can’t go on pram walks, I can’t go on drives, I have to constantly hold him/ entertain him for him to stop crying. I feel like there can’t be something up with him because the moment I hold him or entertain him he’s so happy and giggles/ babbles!

I’m just wondering if anyone is going through something similar?