“Boomer” Gaslighting?

It’s true. I didn’t have any grandparents, but remember spending a lot of time every weekend and most weeknights at my brother and his wife’s house as a child. He was 18 years older than me and watched me and my sister A LOT.

i feel this constantly🥲i hate asking my mom to watch my son because she makes him seem like such a burden and makes me feel like i shouldn’t need a break but then i remember that she had us in daycare/preschool and dropped us off at our grandparents house like every weekend or something. nothing wrong with that but don’t make me feel bad for needing a break when you had breaks all the time🥲oh and she had a babysitter who lived with us too

“I did it without help and therefore you shouldn’nt ask for any” is such a terrible thing g to say to your daughter anyway. Even IF it were true, which it sounds like in her case it’s not, why would that be a desirable way to do things?

In the U.K. I feel like culture has changed a lot from when our parents had us. My mum and dad are still working whereas most of my grandparents were retired. Although most of my grandparents were too wrapped up in their own lives to help my parents out a lot of the time

Myself and a lot of my friends also move a fair way from home because of going to uni and starting lives away from home so we aren’t close to parents

I will say though we went into it not expecting help so weren’t disappointed with the lack of it

My parents are part of the boomer generation and that was not the case at all for them. My grandparents emigrated from the uk to New Zealand at a time people didn’t travel and my dad’s mum was a single parent and retired to the coast. My mum was constantly in hospital with diabetes growing up and she had to rely on her mums group for support. They had students stay to make money so my mum didn’t have to work.
When they became grandparents they were both still working although did help out when they could until they physically couldn’t. My dad has since passed and it’s my mum that needs the help.

Lol the Boomers are a straight joke, know it for sure unfortunately with my experiences

I 💯 get this!!
My mum and inlaws never help or offer to help with anything at all. Even when the baby was born it was just cuddle the baby whilst I make them a hot drink and snacks, then leave dishes and cups laying around… the thing is when they had babies they were in hospital for the minimum of 10 days on bed rest and only had their babies when they needed feeding otherwise taken to the nursery and looked after by the midwives!!
They had time to recover… where as we give birth and sent home the same day with a swift good luck!

Oh my mum does this a lot. It’s the “oh trust me I know, been there done that 4 kids no help” if I say my back hurts “oh I know I’ve had 4 kids” 😂 does my head in sometimes. Like woman I know you’ve had 4 kids im one of them but like show some support without bringing yourself into it god damn it lol. I just ignore it most times cos I’m used to it

Yessss going through this with my parents 😔

They’re called the entitled and selfish generation bc of this right here unfortunately. They had it sooooo easy