In your opinion what’s to old to have a child?? Man and women.

I had my first child at 29. I'm now 35 and 20 weeks pregnant xx

See this is gonna sound stupid but I’d have one at 36/37 but if it’s with my partner he’d be near 50🤣

Hi. Older parent here. I’m 36 and my husband 46 and we have a 2 year old but are also “trying not trying” for a second.. my girlfriends in a very similar situation newly pregnant w her second and both my cousins had Their first in their forties. Lucille ball had her babies in her forties in the 50s. so. I think you’re just fine lol.

I'm 33 my partner is 44 (45 a week after our due date) and he has a 10 year old. He has a knee issue and my back is knackered but we managed and can't wait to welcome our baby into our little family. 30 and 44 I wouldn't say is old but everyone is different. Do what is right for you x

I’m 37 and currently pregnant, I didn’t meet the right person until a few years ago and have always wanted children. I keep fit and healthy and I’m a lot wiser than in my 20s 😄. I definitely wouldn’t say 30 is too old! X

Had my little boy at 41 via IVF. I don’t think I’m too old - although my knees and back might be.

My first child I was 30 which is average where I live. Second was 38. I think I would have kept trying for my second until I was in my 40s. My oh had a thing about not being an old dad however he was 50 when he had my oh and 70 when he passed so slightly different!

32 tomorrow and partner 37… there’s never a right or wrong time. Due October with our first and definitely want a sibling x

I had my first at 33, second at 35, and I would like one more, but when my 2 are at school, so I’ll be around 40 if it happens.
I think a lot of the time it’s more to do with your health, personal circumstances, finances, childcare, than your age.
When I think too old to have children I’m thinking more like 50s and above. I wouldn’t judge anyone doing that, just that it might be biologically very difficult to get pregnant.

Having a 2nd in January I'll be just 37 and he'll be nearly 40 when baby is born and that'll probably be it he already has a nearly 11 year old too

My mom had my sister when she was 45 , she keeps saying that’s the best decision she ever made, she said she keeps me young and she keeps the house warm and alive .

I had my first earlier this year at 35. My husband is 39 (I turn 36 this week) he's going to be our only. Was too hard to get him. I know someone due in November with her second (will have 2u2) and she's like 42.

Had my first at 33 and I’d probably go as high as 45 years old.

But I think it is so variable on your life.

My only plan in life was retiring to take care of my grandkids. I can retire when I’m 54 with full pension, so that would make my first born just over 20 years old. In theory, he could have kids then.

I can also choose to retire later, like at 65 with the general population. So if we’re to have a kid at 45, they’d be 20 when I retire.

I also have flexibility in my job. If I were to have that big of an age gap and my oldest started having kids before I turned 65, I could drop down to part time or whatever to help.

My husband will have to work until he is 65 anyways. So for me there weren’t any perks to retiring early, except if there were grand babies.

I forgot to include my daughter is 5. And the hardest work haha. He also had a 5 year old. We also love our holidays and stuff so I always change my mind I’m like no one is enough for me really haha But I loved pregnancy and the newborn stage ahah

My dad was 47 when he had me and 50 when my brother was born. He is still alive and well (at almost 90). My friends have lost much younger fathers). You can never predict when I’ll health will (or won’t) strike.

omg unreal! Yeah like tbh my boyfriend is wayy more healthy than me im in bed every night at like 8pm and he works a lot and is never tired and im so tired all the time you’d literally think i was like 60 🤣🤣

I’ve just had no3 4days after turning 37. I wouldn’t want to be any older as want to be able to do stuff with them as they grow up. I had my older boys when I was 20 and 22 and love that i can enjoy stuff with them now.

I had my first at 38, im nearly 40 now and debating having a second

I’m 40 and pregnant with my third, I had my first at 32, second at 38

I need to wise up like I haven’t even been goin with my guy long. Like 4 months and I’m broody cause he has met my child and he’s really cute to them and I think I need a good punch in the face for bein broody

P.s has anyone any experience with there older child hating babies ? Cause I don’t think I could have anymore as my 5 year old does not like babies at all. 🤣 she would be so mad at me 🤣

I am a first time Mum at 34 years old

I had my first baby at 31 and I’m pregnant with my second at 34. I may have another one after the second baby is 2. But I didn’t get married until 28 lol so it makes sense to me. My husband is 45 now and he has one other baby that’s 13 from his first marriage and now 2 with me lol he doesn’t want to stop anytime soon either.

It’s also worth pointing out that just because your ex’s mum has health issues at a young age (59 is not old) doesn’t mean that will be the case for everyone.

I had a friend who married young (21) had a kid at 22 and 3 years later she had cancer and died. Another friend her mum had her at 44, her mum is now 88, goes to the gym and lifts weights and looks like she’s in her early 60s. No health problems whatsoever.

If you’re 30 now, you are still super young! As long as you do your best to look after your health now, have the finances to fund another child, age shouldn’t really factor into it.

Imo 30 is still very young. No judgement for women who can still pop em out but I’d probably stop trying after 35.

I’m done with kids and had my last baby at 35. If I had to do it all over again. I wouldn’t have had a baby at 35. My dad was 44 when I was born. He’s now 85 and in a memory care unit and prior to that I was his care taker for a year. I’m 43. I’m way too young to be dealing with an aging parent. The stress it has put on me is not something I ever want for my kids when they are young and in the prime of their life. Watching their grandfather decline when they should still be making memories with him. Is absolutely heartbreaking. He doesn’t even know who my kids are now. My youngest who’s 8 doesn’t know him as the man he was. Only the frail sick man he is now.

I don’t think there is a limit. If your body functions in the right ways to produce more children, & you want more children, have that baby

I had my last at almost 36.
For me it was 35 but I think it's okay to have babies as long as you can, so even 40+.

I just think the older I get, the less time I have with my kids and vice versa.
There are men having children at 60 and I just think he probably won't even be there at his child's graduation and that's sad. Especially for the kids I think.

Is it crazy that the first thing I think about is getting old and dying too early to be there for my kids through adulthood/parebthood? I want to help raise my grandchildren. What if I only live to be 80? Sorry I’m an over thinker 😅

okay so I’m not alone on that lol

I'm 31 now and am not going to have more children because I feel I'm too old, I always told my husband(8 years older than me) at 30 I was done and I am.
My mother had me and my sister in her 40s, and having an older mother wasn't the best. Her health wasn't great, and by the time I was like 6 my sister and I were doing most of the house work because she physically couldn't. Everyone always assumed she was our grandmother and we were made fun of for it by the other kids at school.
Both my parents are dead now, by the time I was 25 I was an orphan and had dealt with everything that goes along with multiple deaths, it was stressful and difficult while also having small children.

I'm 37 and had my first baby loving every minute of it. Age doesn't matter when having children. If you don't want anymore that's okay.

From my own observations I find that women who have kids young, when they reach their 30s & beyond they feel too old cuz they have been parenting for damn near half of their adulthood bt there are moms like myself who STARTED having kids in our 30s or older and a lot of us feel like we are just the right ages to have our kids. Long story short in my opinion there is no such thing as “too old” to have a kids. I intentionally had my child at 30 cuz I wanted to grow my family when I’m at least in my 30s! bt surely not in my 20s cuz in that decade I jus wanted to enjoy being childless even when I got married at 27, my Husband & I didn’t want to have kids on our last yrs of our 20s cuz we still felt like we were too young & we jus wanted to enjoy our young adult lives without a child. So for some ppl having kids in our 30s is old bt for us having kids our 20s would have been too young

I also want to second what said. It depends on when you meet the right person and I know if I had children earlier in my life they would of had a hard time with my mental health and the people I was surrounded by. My Mum had my little brother when I believe she was around 37-40 and it was amazing time for her after going through hell in previous younger pregnancies with my abusive father (I almost wasn't born)

30 for a woman is not too old at all! It does not become considered even slightly risky until a woman is 35 years old. And even then there are women in their mid to late 30s who have healthy babies! And plenty of men father children in their early to mid or even late 40s. FYI, my husband just turned 41 this year and I just turned 36 this year and we currently have a 2-year-old daughter and 20 month old daughter.

First child we were 36 and 40 and this time we’re 39 and 43 but this is our last xx

Just had my first baby @ 31, but hubs is also 31. Personally I’m not trying anymore after 40, but it’s not… too old. Just my choice.

I’m having my first at 35 and plan to have more between now and 40. Whatever makes sense for you and yours.

I turn 36 next month, my husband is 46. We plan to try for a third baby. I still feel young! I have female friends who didn't have their first baby until late 30s & others who had their last baby mid 40s. We all have our own preference/circumstances so I don't believe there is an actual number that makes someone "too old" in terms of a personal decision 😊

You think 30 is too old? This maybe the wrong group for you in that case.
I was 35 nearly 36 when I had my first, im now 37 and plan to go back to ivf for a sibling round next year when I'll be 38

Granted women in the past didn’t have birth control, but many had children into their 40s - perhaps easier back then as there were siblings to help out. So, biologically it’s not abnormal but it depends whether you want it and it makes sense for your family - sounds like you’re considering it.